Life is a privilege, gift and a marriage of learning and experiences. Marriage is a core part of life that requires a resolute synthesis, even though not everybody would experience it, if you are fortunate to be married cherish it, protect it and keep working on it. if you are not but desire it keep working on your yourself in line with God’s plan for and it will soon become your testimony.

Exactly eight (8) years ago, I got covenantly married to my only wife Linda Afolabi and I can tell you it’s been eight successful years of marital harmony with lots of learning.

I want to be married is “cheap talk” but staying married is work and sustaining marriage is a responsibility.

Marriages and marital harmony is under constant satanic attack of ignorance and rage. In the world of today, Marriage has a full time enemy so you can’t afford to be a part time Christian or casual about your individual development, knowledge upgrade and love for God. Couples must be full time aware and conscious.

Successful marriage requires understanding, true maturity, and the love of God. Day by day couples maturity is being tested and couples endurance is being challenged. If you are a part time Christian, Satan will rush in with subtlety to destabilize your emotions, wreck your unity and paralyze your destiny. You can’t afford to rest when you have a restless enemy seeking to devour and destroy your marital bliss. (1 Peter 5:8) marriage is a resolve not just an ordinary decision, it is a choice that just be extraordinarily protected.

Two basic demands of successful marriage are repentance and forgiveness. Where imperfect individual live together offenses will evolve but understanding will sponsor acknowledgement of fault and maturity will generate remorseful repentance when love would usher forgiveness for peace to nestle. Besides a natural man can rarely forgive except the love of God abide in him or her. These are basic necessities that proof love from the man and submission from the woman. Col 3:8-9.

There are two kinds of spouses I have discovered, the Scaffold Spouse and the Pillar Spouse. Marriage is a building and feelings are like scaffold but wisdom is the pillar.

A scaffold Spouse is the easily irritated spouse that life issues will give reasons to quit the marriage when the best is just at the corner. He or she forgets that there are nights before day and there are battles before bliss. If you can t make your marriage work, you are just a scaffold that leaves the building at the finishing stage or when she is about to be completed or When the marriages is just crushing to its peak.

The Pillar Spouse is the abiding associate with faithfulness all through thick and thin. He or she stands to fight the good fight of faith both in the good and bad times. Check the pillar of your house, it is always there. The pillar of a house holds still until the glory of the house comes forth and remains faithful. It remains one with the house all through its life. Are you a pillar in your marriage or the coward scaffold?

Linda, you have been a pillar, I love you and I am grateful that you are there.  My flair was not a fair lady for a bride but the peculiarities that would complete me and help me fulfill my purpose was captured in the fair you and that make us. Love you loads! This is my point..

Mr. or Mrs. Right is not a man but the peculiarities, that this brother left or died, or that lady jilted you or died does not end your world. God has and can build specialties that fits you in another man or lady hence brother/sister pray that you meet the peculiarities that match your purpose in life!

Marriage is Eden; you can’t get a better husband or wife outside your marriage. All you will get are leaves that are temporal and fudge like Adam got when he left Eden or Abraham bought when he bargained for Ishmael. They never last. Quit the extramarital folly! Only God’s provision which is your wife or husband can last your lifetime.

My marriage is blessed with wonderful children, so I pray for every home that is silent and yet to have children running round the house, God will visit you this year In Jesus name. for the homes that are almost hopeless, going lukewarm and overwhelmed with questions, the God that has been making me to laugh will put a new song in your mouth in Jesus name.

For every marriage in crisis, the peace of God will overshadow your storm. May our life and marriages be filled with Love, Peace and Joy that makes us fit for eternity with Christ at the marriage of the Lamb of God in Jesus name.

Dedicated to Linda, Ayomide, David and Grace; And all married couples on the occasion of our 8th Wedding Anniversary.

Julius Afolabi

BE FLEXIBLY STRATEGIC

Being subjectively rigid is a lot of work that leads to business and corporate losses.

God is STRATEGIC, He will go for the man or woman abandoned or forgotten to remember a generation, community, nation or people. God works with identifying potentials that no one can see to achieve all that many celebrate in ages. I Cor 2:18-20!

Jesus went to the tomb to heal one mad man who had great evangelistic potential to reach the entire city. He also decided to have a brief chat with a renowned prostitute who had great evangelistic potentials to sell the raw gospel to the entire city. Mark 5:1-20!

Banking was interesting for me, you could be terrible in operations but should they discover that you have some marketing skills you are immediately re-fused. As soon as my BM in 2002 discovered I could speak the three major languages he relocated me from operations to marketing. I didn’t do much but was the best contract staff in marketing because I understood the dynamics between operations and marketing staff.

Some years ago, the bank had a big challenge in one of its IT locations; we had a contract staff in the IT department that resolved that issue that the whole IT team including the GM IT couldn’t resolve. This contract staff didn’t study electrical electronic or computer electronics. He didn’t even have a degree so he was often relegated and dispersed but inside him was the solution that could have cost the bank several millions. This young man went to the scene and resolved it in days what for months experts couldn’t even understand. The contract staff was just talented in anything computer and employed without a degree.

MD/CEO can you identify one manager who can take another market for you? Manager/ Supervisor can you identify a super-marketer that can launch change your bottom line with his skills? That employee that seems a low performer, timid can you surge up the lion inside him out to bulldoze the market your entire team couldn’t handle.

Be FLEXIBLY STRATEGIC. Manager all that you are wasting the business funds for is in that staff you hate so much, pastor all that the church is suffering can be resolved from that seemingly poor brilliant brother but you ego and office would not allow you consider it. Bishop you know your problem is one private sin that nobody knows about but the euphoria of your position cannot make you apologize to the man you offended. Capon you know that you are suffering in that cult but you feel too big to respond to altar call. There is one thing to get all other things done. Stop being headstrong about giving God that chance to settle all your matter. See the flexibly strategy..

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and EVERY OTHER THING SHALL BE ADDED UNTO YOU. What are you running about for? What has been your entire race in life about? Wouldn’t you rather consider Mathew 6:33!

 

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THE GREATNESS IN YOU!

You are the light of the world, city set upon the hill that cannot be hid. Matthew 5:14. Don’t let your sour experience hide you! God is aware and has the way out.

Getting admission into all levels of my educational pursuit was a sour experience but today the wisdom of God has made me a solution carrier in counsel and business strategy. Is there anything difficult before God especially when you submit to Him? Certainly NO! Your case is not closed; your sour experiences can become your lemonade of impact, influence and income!

Every sour experience of life is a proof of the greatness within you. Many of our sour experiences are seeds of impact, influence and wealth. Many people would never have impacted their world if they had no sour experiences.

The world wouldn’t have celebrated a man like Abraham Lincoln if he hadn’t the sour experiences of serial failure. It was a dangerous sickness that ushered the greatness of Kenneth Hagin’s life. It is the terribleness of poverty that made many people to think and grow rich. what lemonade of value are you going to make of your sour experiences in life to be a blessing to humanity?

The bible is a bank of solution options better than any level of education or human therapy. The bible is the word of God that is true!

What are you passing through? Trust God and believe in Him to see you through so that you can tell the tales of your experiences to preserve many and impact your world.

That poor man cried unto the Lord, the Lord heard him and delivered him from all his troubles. Psalms 34:6! Unto Him that answereth prayers shall all flesh come! Prayers is telling your sour experiences to God because vain is the help of man!

What are your sour experiences today, in your life, marriage, business, career or health? Go tell them to God today! Go to church today, listen to the word of God genuinely, rededicate your life back to God where needful and if you haven’t given your life to Christ before , do so today and let God turn your trials and tribulations to testimonies of triumph and you tell your story you make impact and income.

You are born great to live great, there is greatness in you irrespective of your sour experiences, don’t die little.

Have a blast of revival today in Jesus name!

Julius Afolabi ..

TEN LIFE LESSONS FROM THE POOL OF BETHESDA

Reading this story again in John 5:1-15, i received TEN revelations worth sharing and discovered that, the main message of the man by the pool of Bethesda was after his healing. He was around the temple yet far from healing. Jesus met him again and said to Him, “Go and sin no more lest a worst thing happen to you”, what a pregnant summary! This infers a lot of life lessons from the scene.

  1. God is merciful to all, the man didn’t know Jesus when Jesus walked to Him and released him. Truly his banner over us is Love. God is love and while we were yet sinners Christ died for us. No matter how bad you may be, salvation is still available to you since you have life. Sin sinks but Salvation lifts! God is ready to talk to us if you are willing to open up.
  2. Sin is the hammer that fastens bondage as a nail to a man’s life! Sin will keep a man in circles but not progression. The man’s sin had kept him in same position for 38 years. Shall we continue in sin and expect grace to abound? Iniquity is the sponsor of infirmity and stagnation. Sin keeps a man not too far to solution and fixed in his infirmity.
  3. He was between the temple and the pool of healing. Solution is always around us if we care to observe and become willing to obey! Many people are also on the fence, carnal today and spiritual tomorrow. Just like indifference is no solution, so their situations do not shift its position. Indifference is not a decision but a delusion, it is a self risk!
  4. The words of a messiah save but the words of a liar inflict pain. The man couldn’t take his bed until word came from the Messiah. Only the words of the Messiah can change any condition or situation. Who you listen to determines how you act or respond.
  5. The man was in around the pool of impotent folks. His situation was impotent because he was around impotent folks. Your folks determine your fold and mold.
  6. The man was surrounded by captives that made him a captive. His company were impotent (unproductive), blind (lack of vision), withered (Expired) and waiting (idle and excuse driven). What good would come from such a company! You are about what surround you!
  7. Loathsomeness extends captivity. The loathsomeness of many would deny them the possibilities they are qualified for. The first to step in was made whole. The holes in many lives are in their slothfulness towards an opportunity. Opportunity is to be attacked with the alacrity of preparation. It will not come to you; you will have to go for it. Frustration is being position but incapacitated.
  8. Disposition explains mentality. Your disposition determines your position or opposition. Attitude is a chosen posture! It wasn’t difficult for Jesus to know he had been there for long because of the way he laid. If you fold your hands in hard times, life will fold you into long term frustration.
  9. Lack of identity will make a scapegoat. The man had no name because it could be anyone. If you don’t define yourself and your stand, you will eventually be a scapegoat. The man’s affliction ended when he got to know Jesus such that he could tell others that it was Jesus that changed his story.
  10. Irresponsibility provides wrong answers to the right questions. the man was asked “would thou be made whole” and he responded “i have no man, when the water is troubled to put me into the pool”. Irresponsible people look for who or what to blame for their condition. Irresponsible people have ready-made explanations for failure rather than a reason to succeed. Responsibility is not a suggestion, it is an obligation.

I hope these lessons would sponsor a review of our life endeavors and a just reflection as we plan for the years ahead!

Great week ahead. God bless you as you share.

Julius Afolabi.

PROFIT AND LOSS ACCOUNT OF LIFE

 
As a professional accountant i know that Life is a trading, profit and loss account. The question for me and you is that “Am i going to close the account of my life with a profit or a loss”.  Profits move into reserves. Time is a credible reserve for all men to determine the fate of their account balances. Reserves are meant to rescue embarrassment. How much do you have in your reserves? Life has records and books of account! hmmm…
 
Every man shall personally account for his or her self someday. Daily as we live and often as our days go by, How are are we trading so that at the end of our accounting year we can celebrate with a profit. Many people will have gross profit but will mismanage their expense and end up with a net loss. what are your official, financial, mental, administrative expenses and losses?
 
Jesus said “Of all that you have given me, i have not lost any!
Brother DOCTOR. How many patients have you lost this year? it is not only the patients that died in the process of treatment that are losses.
 
All those who came to you for diagnosis and treatment and left without the knowledge of the Jesus you carry and know because you didn’t tell them about him are capital losses that may count against you. They weren’t directed to you just for medical reasons, the Jesus in you also wanted to have a chat and diagnosis of their eternity.Most of those who will never forget your diagnosis are the ones you added the value of Jesus to! The pastor cant do it alone, your office and desk is a branch of the church! That is where to demonstrate that you love your neighbor as yourself. Diagnosis by the gifts of the spirit are superior and more durable that the theories  and permutation of medical school.
 
Every sinner is a patient that needs a physician. You are that physician that carries the balm in Gilead. Many sick person need Jesus than they need tablets and injection. Ignorance has made many to turn issues that knowledge can treat to prayer points.Many captivities are only punishment of ignorance. Ignorance is the greatest virus of well being. Hosea 4:6!
 
God saved us, our teacher may have trained us by privilege but Jesus is the reason we are not consumed. your profession is your pulpit! Your certification is an altar and your promotion is an opportunity to reach many. your position is purposeful. your knowledge, gift, talent, job and skill are you platforms to get someone saved.
 
All that we have are meant to save others. think about this and begin to use what you given to obtain what you have been promised.
 
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TRAIN UP A CHILD

Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

It is value that makes us understand that our experiences in life are insulators of safety for the exploits of others. That our scars are to secure the injuries of others and our speed is to challenge the laxity of the many. As we grow, let us grow in value and that only shows we are able to see better and rightly.

A father is different from a parent. Anybody can be a parent but being a father is God’s prerogative. Everyone has a supernatural and natural father. We pray our father who hath in heaven and then we were born into a family where we are identified with our biological father whom we did not choose. The differential is responsibility.

God fulfilled the responsibility of a father by providing a training manual in the form a bible and in it he documented how we ought to train up our own children because they are his heritage. We are not train them our own way but God’s own way. Train up a child in the way he should and when he grows up he will not depart from it.

Mephiboseth was incapacitated by a nurse who dropped him off to fall to the ground and lost his feet. Fathers are nurses and many fathers today are like Mephiboseth nurse. However, a father who was not his parent spoke for him and he was restored to his place, the place of royalty. He sat with kings at feast. This is what a father does, trains up a child in a manner that bring them to dignity and royalty. May God grant every parent the wisdom and grace of fatherhood to nurture kings from their loins. Sperm is not a product of the excitement of ecstasy but the birth of a destiny. Mind where you spill yours, you will give account of it. Ask Onan.

Children are diverse, ideas, businesses, service, talent and inventions are children, they call them brain child or mental fertility. We must do or conduct our mental children in a manner that nourishes humanity and give glory to God. That is the way they should go and when we are gone the systems we created will still be solving the issues of humanity.

Many parents have been upgraded to fathers by taken responsibility and many have also fallen from fathers to parent by the ladder of irresponsibility. Save your child today with the rod if need be. (Proverbs 23:13) Don’t pamper a child to scatter his or her destiny. Instruction is not with money. Mordecai was a security man but Esther was not wayward! Your low income is not an excuse  to shirk the discipline of your child. Since the days America removed the bible and child spanking from the curriculum of child training, their unemployment statistics began to grow because the American children drifted into laziness, loathsomeness and latitude of attitude.

Our generation is growing out of line, parents must become fathers and fathers must instill the moral codes required to match the demands of the future. today, knowledge is on the increase but change is not happening because application is undervalued. Our children will beckon on the role we played in the degeneration of the world we have shaped.

Train up your child or children and God bless you.

Dedicated to my lovely daughter who turns 7! Daughter you are blessed beyond measure through the love of God!

Julius Afolabi

MARRIAGE AND WEDDING TIPS IN RECESSION

Prudence is superior to recession. Love is wise.  Recession should suspend your wedding!

In all sincerity, Recession shouldn’t stop your wedding if you have matured your preparation for marriage. Stop postponing your marriage if you are ripe, life is a race against time. The major factor is marrying right and Making the right decision. It is not about what people will say, it is what your experience and life will be after the wedding that is crucial. it is important not to enter marriage because of wedding or pressure, if you are frustrated before wedding, you will be humiliated in marriage. Don’t know it all, pride ushers disgraceful fall. Seek the face of God and seek counsel from spiritually matured people prayerfully.

Here are a few tips to tip off your slumber and economic fear. Wedding is only a bridge not a location!

Many people want to impress people and depress themselves. It is the marriage that matters o.
– It is not how flamboyant your wedding is, it is how blissful your marriage will be. Your wedding budget has no correlation with your marital joy. Understanding is the differential. You don’t need a deficit budget to fix your wedding, your marriage will have an unfavorable balance and then you swim into validating your decision. Debt driven wedding makes marriage a liability.
– Wedding card is a disposable, who said you can’t print letters? its an invite not a wall plaque.
– If you slaughter countless cows men will still complain. People are invited to witness not to consume. Refreshment is not 3 square meal.
– Rather than owe to fix wedding, sow a seed to seal your marriage.
– Some churches don’t take offerings in wedding ceremonies, why should officiating ministers demand honorarium? Let God honor you. Jesus our example said I receive no honor from men. John 5:41!
– Many Aso ebi don’t last beyond the wedding neither are they true symbols of family love and unity. Marital and family unity is superior to aso ebi unity. Even wicked uncles and auntys wear aso ebi.
– Engagement and wedding could be done the same day. Time is life. Merge the expenses. It will reduce accommodation expense and inconvenience challenges. Serious people are busy.
– You don’t have to buy two rings, get a wedding band. The commitment is between the couples not the world. The people who will say you don’t have an engagement ring will see your wedding band. Two rings self no be weight?
– Thank God wedding gowns can be rented but where you can afford, buy one. If you cant, rent one, after all you are not going to announce that you did. The major matter is ensure you pray fervently over the rented gown so that you don’t import the marital realities of those who have used that you may never know their spiritual and personal status. Life is deep! Some people say wedding gown are ceremonial burial garment. its all a tradition of old tale! Would the ceremonial burial gown change the eternal home of the person? It is what you did with your life and choice that matter at death. Duet 30:19. Let’s get out of tradition and face the truth.
– Be happy with those that didn’t attend your wedding but are praying for your marriage than those who attended but wish you hell in the marriage or showed up for analysis and mockery.
– Traditional rites should not be a rope of suicide, if all God who gives and sustain life is only asking for our choice to obey Him, (Ecc 12:13) why should any man compel people for excessive material demands with financial burden. Pray to God concerning what you can give to Caesar, humbly seek discounts. Ask, negotiate. Be spiritual not traditional too, because the gift of a man is a point of contact. Pray about everything!!! God will help you and grant you favor once your bed and courtship process is not defiled.

Don’t let recession be an excuse! If you can afford a colorful wedding why not but if you can’t don’t die in depression. It is marital experience that is the color of your wedding.

Purposeful Life is not for comparison, everyone has his or her lane. Don’t compare and contrast till you frustrate yourself. Life is an individual race. Every man shall be accountable for himself.

With these few wits of mine, i believe i have relieved you of the mask of economic fear!

Please share, freely contribute and comment objectively.

Julius Afolabi