WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY GENERATION & SEX?

So many sour occurrences and experiences have made me to ask this question, i know you have heard and read stories more sour but we cant keep hearing, reading and lamenting without a healing. Sex apparently wasn’t meant to ruin man’s happiness but rather to glow it.  Two will never walk together except they agree!
1. A young fresh man in his green attitude dashed into a lecturer’s office in one of our Nigerian university only to find a him in active sexual intercourse with a student at broad day light.
 
2. A screening inspection was talking place in an office and a career woman had to dash home to pick her credentials only to find her husband in dangerous sexual gymnastic with another woman. He hung on unavailability and sexual famine but the woman knew she was busy but guilty.
 
3. A young enterprising man works offshore and upon an unannounced return discovered his wife in a sexual parade with another man. Sex most assuredly would be one of the vehicles to hell with flippant excuses but that was not the plan, we only bought a different formula.
 
Many corporate executives have unholy sexual demands an appraisal issue. many busy people are lost in the job and lost at home. The career, fame and wealth have become a sickness they can only personally endure. Many are dying in silence concerning sexual matters. Satan has counsel singles to view fornication and sophisticated prostitution as a way out of recession. Student trade sex for grades and graduate without a job, sexually get a job and sexually sustain the job. is that life? That is Hell with sex, a sleep with satanic sex offers you a free accommodation in hell should pass on without a change.
 
Many politician in quest for power has been counseled to have satanic sex with their mothers or daughters. what manner of evil, of course it is obvious that that is no longer natural but inhuman. Sex has its spirit, an erection could take a man off his natural senses and a thirsty ovulation could send a careless woman out of a careless tough. sexual urge can be dangerous and demands the right education.
 
There seem to be more infidelity in the Church than in the world? Adultery is fast becoming a norm. Divorce has become a digestive diet in the Church. What is wrong with my generation? The unholy culture is fast becoming the nature of the Church. There seem to be a flood of immorality sweeping away the Spiritual texture of the Church. Marriages are like planes, we only hear of the ones that crash, no wonder sexual perversion has hybernated in the church. Secrets between couples and ignorant application & communication of Love have also damaged the sexual happiness of many homes. The deception of the age and manipulation of sex has crept into the Church. you will wonder what has happen to the BIBLE. 6 to 1 diet of the bible is a terrible formula for a triumphant life, marriage and sex.
 
The first story was recent and i heard to recall the next two with many more that time and space would not permit me to share , and i thought deeply, what exactly is wrong with my generation and sex. The gift has become sinful goad. Indeed ignorance and indiscipline are powerful combinations that perfect bondage and disgrace. shame is indeed the promotion of fools, a fool is one who rejects the knowledge of God.
 
My generation of young people don’t understand that fornication is like a gadget that when you activate play, it takes God to pulse. Amazingly my generation has failed to understand that Adultery works smoothly with unavailability, anonymity and affordability. both sexual perversion works with disobedience to God. when your Spirit is dormant, your flesh will be active. temptation ride on dominant flesh and passive spiritual control.
 
Sex is a divine gift purposely in marriage but Satan perverted it and mass produced the satanic perspective of sex. Sexual urge is an offshoot of chemicals, it begins with words that drive activation of hormones that increase sexual drive. Words power power touch and touch increase these chemical reactions in the body and sexual drive, stimulation and urge is increased to a point of gratification that ends in sex. sexual urge is a body chemistry reaction that also be powered by a seductive force.
 
It is written the power of life and death lies in the tongue, many have silenced their marital peace and harmony with awful communication. when a wife tells or asks her husband “Is sex food” and a husband tells the wife “are you a dog”. Then they have murdered sex in that marriage.i thought couples are meant to be open, honest and sincere since a third party is a marital death warrant. Only maturity helps a man or woman to hear and understand, more so know how to respond. Age is not wisdom, wisdom is superior to age and puberty. Marriage and sex is a matter of wisdom. it takes a prudent wife and a wise man to live sexually happy. Sexual organs don’t talk but are controlled by communications verbal and non verbal! Sex responds to mentality faster than the act itself. Ecstasy or climax is a powerful communication with heavy consequence, communication is a huge decision process. sex is not love but love leads to sex. Erection is not a defect and amorous responses are not mistakes, they communicate judgements.
 
Never ask your spouse, is sex food or are you never tired? It is scarcely possible to leave sex for food but it is very Possible to leave for for sex. when sex is off your menu list, you are inviting tension in your matrimonial home! Denying you spouse sex is killing the marriage.
 
Sex is not an option in marriage, it is an obligation. If you give a woman everything, all the money and comfort and fail to satisfy her sexually or unavailable for sexual unity in marriage, you have done nothing. sex makes a woman feel like a woman. sex makes a man feel the ego of a man. Sex is God ordained pleasure within the confines of marriage. when a car is not serviced, it will loose viscosity.
 
Don’t kill your marriage with sexual denial. They don’t preach this on the altar. Adam and Eve were naked and not ashamed. Men and Women have varying sexual drive, one party passive and the other passive, In marriage we must close the gap else we brake the edge and the serpent will bite. Couple should talk to each other and be willing to render the benevolence Paul admonished in 1 Cor 7:1-5!
 
Some spouses has been deceived by size of organ for sexual satisfaction, it is not what you have but how you use what you have. The man with the biggest male organ in the world is under torments, lonely, abandoned and rejected. Read it up (Roberto Esquivel Cabrera, 54, from Saltillo, Mexico, has a penis measuring a colossal 18.9 inches.) is that what you want? He laments of such a yoke in his life. yet some women and men are seeking satanic means to increase their organ, are you wiser than God? get out if ignorance and read anointed books that teach Christian ways of managing sexual incompatibility.
 
Safe your spouse the temptation out there. Overgrow temptation by eating well at home, eating out is greed punishable with unwanted and ill-bargained calamities. Whatever has no boundaries, is a bondage.  Don’t employ a partner you may never be able to sack your sour experience with. This and more, my generation must know. I believe that this piece would safe a couple, marriage, fornicator, adulterer and a home.
 
My generation must be healed of this sexual mentality defect.
 
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Afolabi Julius Olatunde

THERE IS MORE AHEAD…

“forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, i press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” Philippians 3:13-14

No matter what you circumstance was yesterday, it is history! today is a new day that you are meant to have a fresh start. Those who spend today mourning yesterday never live to enjoy tomorrow. Weeping may have endured for the night but this is the morning of your joy, don’t ruin it in depression and thanklessness. The poverty of hopelessness is that it ruins the potency of the future. you are richer than you were poor yesterday if only you will acknowledge and expect the good of today. The future is wealthier than the past why trade today for the poor yesterday. The afflictions of yesterday could be great but God’s mercy of today is opening doors of triumph for you! There is good news today, when i wake up , i fashion my mind for what good God is about to do this new day because God is good and His mercies kept me alive for the good of today, it has then become unreasonable to impoverish today and drain it of its potency to make my life precious. Grace is not a christian exclusive, it is fund of sure safety for all men alive.

Today is like the sun, walk towards it hope and the shadows of yesterdays grief would be cast behind you permanently.  Seek God, He add in the proportion to which we seek Him. Without renewal there would never be an improvement!

BE anxious for nothing but in thankfulness and prayer make your desired request known unto God. Miracles happen after prayers, Jesus walked on water after prayers. Matt 14:22-28!He contributed nothing to the bad news of yesterday but faced the future with prayers and thankfulness. Joy is the fountain of wellness, grieve breaks the bones and wears out the Spirit (which is the real you). Depression suppresses energy for progression.


Amazingly i discovered Scarcity does not exit, Scarcity is only a veil of ignorance, scarcity does not really exit. It may be somewhat difficult for you to agree with me but I show you the truth now. Have you noticed that no matter how bad your condition or financial situation is, there is always a five loaves and two fish around we just always says what can these do? Around you, if you can scan your environment, inherent ability and your house well there is always a cruise of oil that does not fail but we often trivialize its capacity because we don’t know God kept is around to round off our poverty. We often lack the multiplicative capacity to expand the cruise of oil by right and wise investment or exchange. There is always the trinity of inherent ability, skilled acquired by training and supernatural gift that suffocates stagnation!


Martin Luther King Jnr once said “we must accept finite disappointment but we must never lose infinite hope

Depression releases the reality of recession but joy incubates the focused thinking of surpassing abundance. Paul said i have dumped my degrees and skills for the surpassing call on my maker. Dumping doesn’t mean deactivation but rather activating in alignment with God’s will. you are created as a rescue, your craft which is your specific and peculiar skill is your wealth zone beyond recession. That is your cruise of oil and your five loaves plus two fish, if you belittle it you will always resign to the grief of yesterday. strife to improve on what you have been doing, find out why your efforts haven’t yielded the much you expect, take a walk of solitude to ventilate your mind for the new approach to crucify your dilemma.

The truth remains we all have homogeneous issues but our approaches are heterogeneous. That is the wonder of ingenuity. discouragement and complains will lock down your ingenuity. stop spending time with the media news, why get worked up listening to the media woes, settle with the good news that where the script of relevant abundance is discovered and published.  Government don’t resolve recession, recession is a wind (no one can really tell its origin) that sinks those who focus on it but surpassing abundance is with the superior wind which you are according to John 3:8!  no one can tell your future but the book of life in this life and the life to come. if our actions are documented in books, what do you think your action should be today. stay discouraged and downcast? NO! There is more ahead, dig and search it out in the master script. Luke 4:18. Psalms 40:7!

There is more ahead of you, don’t die with yesterday today! The failure of yesterday is gone, get over the friendly enemy of yesterday, get over the betrayal of yesterday, cancel the disappointment of yesterday, start afresh today with all of its abundance and secure your surpassing wealthy posterity.

Business is going to be great today, Promotion is coming today, health is restored today, your husband is coming back today, your baby is arriving today, the test for the long awaited pregnancy is coming positive today. Good things will happen for you today, let yesterday reports die and position to live in the joy of today and well-being of tomorrow.

It became good news that Mary did not have an abortion, don’t abort your hope, you must carry the word of promise until the promise carries out of that condition. your mirror doesn’t give you a full script of you, it explained only your physical but your spirit man can only be pictured in the word. Adjusting the physical body and the intellectual mind cant clean the mess of life up but the renewing the mind and building the Spirit with the word adjust life dramatically.  Your degree, certificate, bank account, physical beauty would not face God in the final analysis, it is your Spirit that will! The word of God is more sure word of prophesy with incorruptibility. Take the pill of the word of God today , accept it and believe it , it will cure all of yesterday’s griefs and any other forever!

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Julius Afolabi.

THE CHEAPEST PATH TO PERMANENT LOSSES..

Gambling is one of the cheapest way to permanent losses.

It sediments an addiction that encrypt penury and financial disaster! Business negotiation is so crucial that one bad deal  is good enough to shut down your entire business empire or declare your financial and business ruin! A bad negotiation makes you loose beyond money! Gambling is a bad destiny negotiation. Only Jesus can absolutely set a gambler free! 

 

Choice is an endorsement with consequences and a contract with penalty or applause! Deception is not a business strategy no matter the advocates! 
Gambling has become the latest toxic virus in our neighborhood.. What a loss of productivity! Many only earn enough for the next bet! Phones suggest it at will irrespective of sim owners’ permit. it is online to ease and sophisticate patronage. subtlety is such an organized crime that even education is messed up by it.
Lotto machines are like ATM channels, mobile and installed in streets and homes. They open earlier than true businesses!
In the Movie “WAR ROOM” it was express that a comfortable home is not a measure of happiness. it exposed fraud as foolishness and clearly demonstrates that no matter what you have lost it can be restored when you let in Jesus the true way to living healthy and wealthy!
Gambling is a Deception run with business philosophy especially with legal consent. how ignorant we legally permit multiplication of penury. Man is sacrificed by his choices. your choice either secures or severe your life and destiny!
Living without the fear of God is the greatest gamble of life! Once your thoughts, actions and disposition runs contrary to the commandment you lack the fear of God.
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Afolabi Julius Olatunde

THE GIFT OF NAAMAN

10 Years ago as a young banker i had an offer to clear a fraudulent cheque valued at #4.2b with a bonus of #100-110m but i declined working with a principle that “whatever i think i cannot make is what i steal ” . That was the gift of Naaman and the appetite of Gehazi!  The person who took the offer was arrested a month after his juicy wedding, lost his job and shattered his early marriage with a frustrated pregnant wife.  Proverbs 15:27a says “He that is greedy of gain troubleth his own house”

Every Good gift and every perfect gift cometh from God the father of all lights with whom there is no variableness neither shadow of turning. James 1:17

Good gift and Perfect gift comes from God not Naaman! it is the perfection of heart that help identify rightness of the gift of Naaman. Not all gifts are meant to be received. our stand with God is what scans the gifts as God instructs us. Am very sure there was a need in the house of the prophet but it wasnt the time and type of Gift that would meet His needs. Only discipline can make a man to reject the gift of Naaman.

A careful observation would let you know that Naaman brought his gift with pride. 2 kings 5:11! Bribe comes with pride and pride comes before destruction. many gifts are entrapment because the gift of a man makes a way for Him. Gehazi didnt appreciate the clothing he had on that reflected the glory of God so he opted for the suit of leprosy. Many subordinates never wonder why there contented boss rejected the gift of Naaman. Many people have received gifts that slaughtered them. ignorance and lack of faith in God always bedevils many. faith and patience are requirements for good and perfect gifts. Your need doe not determine your gift, it is the favor of God that is sponsored by the fear of the Lord that organizes your gift , such gifts lift you and not plant sorrow in your life and future.

Satan also packages gifts that will deflate the life and ministry of many today, satanic gift are everywhere today especially with the scarcity mentality that ignorance portrays all around us. proverbs 9:16-18!

Who is Naaman? The political merchants, the business magnates and the many around with lousy wealthy that create a scene when they come, they blare the siren, they command convoys, they come with presidential notes and letters. The so called celebrities and societal respected offices and Dirty chiefs that expect respect that they can’t earn etc. They let everyone know their presence and they display their posts, staff of offices. Naamans will always see that there is a miracle before they bring gift. 2 kings 5:15!  They make their gift look like they are doing you a favor when they actually need what they don’t have but are in you. Any man who can’t value His worth will always fall for the gift of Naaman.

Faith is a must if you must receive a gift from the good God. He that will come to God must believe that He is the rewarded of them that diligently seek him. Naaman waited until his leprosy was cleansed before He believed that there is God in Israel. That is not the divine order. Faith is a prerequisite for perfect gifts.

 


Gehazi couldn’t control his appetite for the gift of Naaman! Through many studies and observation i have discovered that whatsoever has no boundary is a bondage! Even the garden of Eden had controls and boundaries! 


Today, in many offices, businesses and ministries the gift of Naaman has paralyzed efficiency and effectiveness of their operations. Many positions have been used as compensations and exchange strategies because of the gift of Naaman, special services that ought to be for the salvation of souls, spiritual edification for the needy, sick, challenged are now organized for Naamans. Hands that are to be laid on young Elisha’s are now laid because of the gift of Naaman. The church even observes Pareto to attend to humanity but Jesus didn’t even despise children that had nothing to give.

Many professionals and educated people cannot value the worth of their learning so they fall prey to filthy gifts of Naaman that put leprosy on their years of education and expertise. Can’t you see the ridicule in our nation today? Well educated people in the net of messy bribery and corruption. They couldn’t kill the gehazi inside them, so they run after the gift of Naaman. Adultery and fornication is also the gift of Naaman that will run destiny down and leave your life with a low or no battery to energize the pursuit of your vision.

Many leaders, ministers, professional and even pastors facilitate the gift of Naaman by displaying desperation either stylishly or frankly. That is why a low esteemed pastor who doesn’t know that his lift is in gift that comes from God not Naaman will make demands or send sms or specially greet or accord attention to selected Naamans in his congregation and many times it devalues their anointing and their leadership. They suddenly become dry wells that can’t quench the thirst of the people again just like Gehazi they fade away shamefully. Elisha knew his anointing was not a result of manipulation. It was a processed in the furnace of a right walk with God.

The Jesus in you is worth countless times what any man in this passing world can dare to offer you! Sterilize your offers and reject the gift of Naaman for your true prosperity and posterity. What inheritance do you want to leave for your generation? Honor or leprosy! Elisha is remembers as a generational hero but Gehazi is remembered a caution and curse because of the gift of Naaman.

Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? can one go upon hot coals and his feet not be burned?

Beware of the gift of Naaman. John 12:26!

Think about your end irrespective of what you do or the position you occupy! Selah!

Julius Afolabi

Life is a privilege, gift and a marriage of learning and experiences. Marriage is a core part of life that requires a resolute synthesis, even though not everybody would experience it, if you are fortunate to be married cherish it, protect it and keep working on it. if you are not but desire it keep working on your yourself in line with God’s plan for and it will soon become your testimony.

Exactly eight (8) years ago, I got covenantly married to my only wife Linda Afolabi and I can tell you it’s been eight successful years of marital harmony with lots of learning.

I want to be married is “cheap talk” but staying married is work and sustaining marriage is a responsibility.

Marriages and marital harmony is under constant satanic attack of ignorance and rage. In the world of today, Marriage has a full time enemy so you can’t afford to be a part time Christian or casual about your individual development, knowledge upgrade and love for God. Couples must be full time aware and conscious.

Successful marriage requires understanding, true maturity, and the love of God. Day by day couples maturity is being tested and couples endurance is being challenged. If you are a part time Christian, Satan will rush in with subtlety to destabilize your emotions, wreck your unity and paralyze your destiny. You can’t afford to rest when you have a restless enemy seeking to devour and destroy your marital bliss. (1 Peter 5:8) marriage is a resolve not just an ordinary decision, it is a choice that just be extraordinarily protected.

Two basic demands of successful marriage are repentance and forgiveness. Where imperfect individual live together offenses will evolve but understanding will sponsor acknowledgement of fault and maturity will generate remorseful repentance when love would usher forgiveness for peace to nestle. Besides a natural man can rarely forgive except the love of God abide in him or her. These are basic necessities that proof love from the man and submission from the woman. Col 3:8-9.

There are two kinds of spouses I have discovered, the Scaffold Spouse and the Pillar Spouse. Marriage is a building and feelings are like scaffold but wisdom is the pillar.

A scaffold Spouse is the easily irritated spouse that life issues will give reasons to quit the marriage when the best is just at the corner. He or she forgets that there are nights before day and there are battles before bliss. If you can t make your marriage work, you are just a scaffold that leaves the building at the finishing stage or when she is about to be completed or When the marriages is just crushing to its peak.

The Pillar Spouse is the abiding associate with faithfulness all through thick and thin. He or she stands to fight the good fight of faith both in the good and bad times. Check the pillar of your house, it is always there. The pillar of a house holds still until the glory of the house comes forth and remains faithful. It remains one with the house all through its life. Are you a pillar in your marriage or the coward scaffold?

Linda, you have been a pillar, I love you and I am grateful that you are there.  My flair was not a fair lady for a bride but the peculiarities that would complete me and help me fulfill my purpose was captured in the fair you and that make us. Love you loads! This is my point..

Mr. or Mrs. Right is not a man but the peculiarities, that this brother left or died, or that lady jilted you or died does not end your world. God has and can build specialties that fits you in another man or lady hence brother/sister pray that you meet the peculiarities that match your purpose in life!

Marriage is Eden; you can’t get a better husband or wife outside your marriage. All you will get are leaves that are temporal and fudge like Adam got when he left Eden or Abraham bought when he bargained for Ishmael. They never last. Quit the extramarital folly! Only God’s provision which is your wife or husband can last your lifetime.

My marriage is blessed with wonderful children, so I pray for every home that is silent and yet to have children running round the house, God will visit you this year In Jesus name. for the homes that are almost hopeless, going lukewarm and overwhelmed with questions, the God that has been making me to laugh will put a new song in your mouth in Jesus name.

For every marriage in crisis, the peace of God will overshadow your storm. May our life and marriages be filled with Love, Peace and Joy that makes us fit for eternity with Christ at the marriage of the Lamb of God in Jesus name.

Dedicated to Linda, Ayomide, David and Grace; And all married couples on the occasion of our 8th Wedding Anniversary.

Julius Afolabi

BE FLEXIBLY STRATEGIC

Being subjectively rigid is a lot of work that leads to business and corporate losses.

God is STRATEGIC, He will go for the man or woman abandoned or forgotten to remember a generation, community, nation or people. God works with identifying potentials that no one can see to achieve all that many celebrate in ages. I Cor 2:18-20!

Jesus went to the tomb to heal one mad man who had great evangelistic potential to reach the entire city. He also decided to have a brief chat with a renowned prostitute who had great evangelistic potentials to sell the raw gospel to the entire city. Mark 5:1-20!

Banking was interesting for me, you could be terrible in operations but should they discover that you have some marketing skills you are immediately re-fused. As soon as my BM in 2002 discovered I could speak the three major languages he relocated me from operations to marketing. I didn’t do much but was the best contract staff in marketing because I understood the dynamics between operations and marketing staff.

Some years ago, the bank had a big challenge in one of its IT locations; we had a contract staff in the IT department that resolved that issue that the whole IT team including the GM IT couldn’t resolve. This contract staff didn’t study electrical electronic or computer electronics. He didn’t even have a degree so he was often relegated and dispersed but inside him was the solution that could have cost the bank several millions. This young man went to the scene and resolved it in days what for months experts couldn’t even understand. The contract staff was just talented in anything computer and employed without a degree.

MD/CEO can you identify one manager who can take another market for you? Manager/ Supervisor can you identify a super-marketer that can launch change your bottom line with his skills? That employee that seems a low performer, timid can you surge up the lion inside him out to bulldoze the market your entire team couldn’t handle.

Be FLEXIBLY STRATEGIC. Manager all that you are wasting the business funds for is in that staff you hate so much, pastor all that the church is suffering can be resolved from that seemingly poor brilliant brother but you ego and office would not allow you consider it. Bishop you know your problem is one private sin that nobody knows about but the euphoria of your position cannot make you apologize to the man you offended. Capon you know that you are suffering in that cult but you feel too big to respond to altar call. There is one thing to get all other things done. Stop being headstrong about giving God that chance to settle all your matter. See the flexibly strategy..

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and EVERY OTHER THING SHALL BE ADDED UNTO YOU. What are you running about for? What has been your entire race in life about? Wouldn’t you rather consider Mathew 6:33!

 

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THE GREATNESS IN YOU!

You are the light of the world, city set upon the hill that cannot be hid. Matthew 5:14. Don’t let your sour experience hide you! God is aware and has the way out.

Getting admission into all levels of my educational pursuit was a sour experience but today the wisdom of God has made me a solution carrier in counsel and business strategy. Is there anything difficult before God especially when you submit to Him? Certainly NO! Your case is not closed; your sour experiences can become your lemonade of impact, influence and income!

Every sour experience of life is a proof of the greatness within you. Many of our sour experiences are seeds of impact, influence and wealth. Many people would never have impacted their world if they had no sour experiences.

The world wouldn’t have celebrated a man like Abraham Lincoln if he hadn’t the sour experiences of serial failure. It was a dangerous sickness that ushered the greatness of Kenneth Hagin’s life. It is the terribleness of poverty that made many people to think and grow rich. what lemonade of value are you going to make of your sour experiences in life to be a blessing to humanity?

The bible is a bank of solution options better than any level of education or human therapy. The bible is the word of God that is true!

What are you passing through? Trust God and believe in Him to see you through so that you can tell the tales of your experiences to preserve many and impact your world.

That poor man cried unto the Lord, the Lord heard him and delivered him from all his troubles. Psalms 34:6! Unto Him that answereth prayers shall all flesh come! Prayers is telling your sour experiences to God because vain is the help of man!

What are your sour experiences today, in your life, marriage, business, career or health? Go tell them to God today! Go to church today, listen to the word of God genuinely, rededicate your life back to God where needful and if you haven’t given your life to Christ before , do so today and let God turn your trials and tribulations to testimonies of triumph and you tell your story you make impact and income.

You are born great to live great, there is greatness in you irrespective of your sour experiences, don’t die little.

Have a blast of revival today in Jesus name!

Julius Afolabi ..