NEVER HURT FOR FUN

No matter the area of life or endeavor you find yourself, it is safe to mind the way you treat others, the repercussions of intentionally hurting others for fun is grave! many people have planted ignominy and thick cloud of struggle over the years ahead of them. Don’t let your mindless actions empty your future. The future is delicate! Some years back, a teenager profoundly defined fun and pleasure as things and activities that get you off normal for a while. There is one thing I have discovered life keeps a file! In the habitat of fun, many have incurred long term struggles over their life. Many years after men would have forgotten their deeds, time keeps the record and maturity of hurt brings them to bear!

Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue [is] a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. James 3:5-6.

Years ago I saw a movie where a woman who had three children as they walked along the road, a reckless drunk driver ran through them and murdered the three children and sped off. The woman out of the agony of pains with almost nothing to live for and the sour memories of the tragic death of her children spoke ill words “may the one who caused her this pain never find help”. The reckless drunk thought it was fun but for over 20,30 years he labored in vain, his life was full of pains, struggle and emptiness. help was far from him and his family. He had forgotten where he wronged and it was no longer fun for him again. Are you carelessly hurting someone? Have you hurt someone intentionally and laughing it over? Are you putting someone through pains? Think again and rush back for forgiveness and mercy now! Hmmm.. When we forget ourselves, we do things that are remembered.

But the tongue can no man tame; [it is] an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. James 3:8.

Words are powerful; a pronouncement from an afflicted heart will be honored. The tongue is such a lethal instrument, it curses and blesses. The wish of the afflicted will be granted without hesitation especially when the hurt was an intentional wicked act or hurt for fun. It is wickedness to delight in hurting people for fun. Some friends will stab the other so badly that the other party in the midst of the cry of pain will make painful pronouncements. They may be few words but can damage the entire life of the callous offender. A very bitter person may barely say, as you have made life tough for me, may life be tough for you or may you not find a helper!may you not attract battles of pains to yourself in Jesus name!

Some people just derive fun from hurting people. They just laugh carelessly over the pains of others but a careful sorrow of grief awaits them also. What a culture of cruelty! God said owe no man anything except love. Anything outside love for and to a fellow man is share wickedness. only a wicked soul laughs at others calamity or rejoices at the fall of others! Woe unto him by who offense come. There are people you think can’t do anything to you because you may be more than them in everything(probably richer and more influential than they are for now) but may they not use their tongue against you. i admonish you Never undervalue anyone or say you can’t do anything especially when you are oppressing such a person!  it maybe your spouse or friend, colleague , family member or even brethren. The same way a heartfelt prayer gets answers so also painful negative pronouncement launches sorrow into the life and generation of the wicked.

Listen well, you may take your wicked act for fun but you will be under the tribute and curse of your action. Actions are investment. These days, some young men just go about getting ladies pregnant for fun and abandon or deny them, they raise the child in struggles and some may never be fortunate to settle for another family again, hence they live in pains and hurt. Some of these people out of pains may sometimes just make terrible pronouncement and that pronouncement will form a canopy over the offender. There is nothing that the offender will do in his life that will see the light of the day, it will be struggle upon struggle. Life will be acidic and corrosive to such.  Dignity starts with the man! Stop enjoying irresponsibility!

The message is that when we refuse to take responsibility, when we are callous and careless, we attract battles of struggles in life!

Don’t hurt for fun, it is disastrous. stay truly amiable!

what do you say?

 

Julius Afolabi

DESTINY: A DELICATE ASSET

An asset is what you own by divine default and/or acquire that improves your value! Choice should be an asset of destiny! Focus on destiny is the right lens of choice! Destiny is heaven’s script concerning you! Destiny is enshrined within a decided tenure (lifetime) and time is that tenure that dies deliberately without man’s approval. Destiny is a delicate asset!
Destiny is the heavenly decided life for man. However, in many cases the autonomy of choice has devastated many destinies. Choice is programmed with consequence and the only way to guard choice is to be convinced that you are right about it. Your choice will either make the world miss or lose your genius. Before making a choice, its crucial to value the future worth of character to destiny! Choice means your approval for God’s will or permission for Satan to accomplish his plan.
 
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean NOT on your own understanding! In ALL your ways acknowledge Him and He Shall direct thy path! Proverbs 3:5-6!
 
Destiny is a spiritual asset, human permutations, judgements and assertions cant get it right! Sense knowledge is a poor score in destiny matters, you need Divine knowledge! Our education only speeds up our reasoning ability if we are not bias. Doubt is a bias. Revelation which is divine knowledge existed long before human knowledge emerged. I have discovered that you can get all the education, certifications and professional profiles and be in lofty places but if you don’t understand life, you will fail cheaply! I means, its like seeking capital without management capacity.
 
Adam operated on divine knowledge until sin when his poor human knowledge emerged with leaves for a cover! sin is simply honoring your opinion above scriptural/spiritual instructions! The truth is that no scriptural principle work in isolation, they all work in collaboration. Selective obedience only wins the accolade of failure and mediocrity. 
 
Marriage is one core part of destiny that make you an asset to the world. A misfit wife/husband can plunder many years of life and corrupt destiny, the achievements that ought to mature in 2 years may take 20 years or more because you will deploy 18 years into trying to or getting your focus on your goals because the stench of your choice is distracting you. There are many couples that are no longer coupled, not many couples in uniforms are still coupled. Many wedding pictures are still very fresh but the marriage ended long time ago.
  • A lady may not meet your beauty standard but her Character could beautify your destiny. Another may meet your beauty standard but poison your destiny!
  • A young man could appear likeable but very unreliable! A young man may appear business and financially sustainable but would he treat you like his business or honor you as a woman? A handsome young man without heavenly character is a giant prison and life cage!

Marriage is a choice of what you want to live with! you may get married in church but all you know about marriage is outside Christ or traditional or the tradition of men.

Marriage is a careful deliberation that require the express approval of the codes of the Almighty God. when it comes to marriage the bible must be studied meticulously. Today, it is a pity that we contract marriage with basic knowledge of culture rather the truth of the Biblical perspective. what a faulty formula!
No one can alter biblical order and fulfill destiny! The asset of your destiny is in the biblical order! The truth is incontrovertible, you may criticize it, deride it or mock it but in the end there it is the same. Those who appreciate the truth live it! live the truth!
Your life is your stuff, work on it and Make it worth emulating!
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Julius Afolabi

THERE IS MORE AHEAD…

“forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, i press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus” Philippians 3:13-14

No matter what you circumstance was yesterday, it is history! today is a new day that you are meant to have a fresh start. Those who spend today mourning yesterday never live to enjoy tomorrow. Weeping may have endured for the night but this is the morning of your joy, don’t ruin it in depression and thanklessness. The poverty of hopelessness is that it ruins the potency of the future. you are richer than you were poor yesterday if only you will acknowledge and expect the good of today. The future is wealthier than the past why trade today for the poor yesterday. The afflictions of yesterday could be great but God’s mercy of today is opening doors of triumph for you! There is good news today, when i wake up , i fashion my mind for what good God is about to do this new day because God is good and His mercies kept me alive for the good of today, it has then become unreasonable to impoverish today and drain it of its potency to make my life precious. Grace is not a christian exclusive, it is fund of sure safety for all men alive.

Today is like the sun, walk towards it hope and the shadows of yesterdays grief would be cast behind you permanently.  Seek God, He add in the proportion to which we seek Him. Without renewal there would never be an improvement!

BE anxious for nothing but in thankfulness and prayer make your desired request known unto God. Miracles happen after prayers, Jesus walked on water after prayers. Matt 14:22-28!He contributed nothing to the bad news of yesterday but faced the future with prayers and thankfulness. Joy is the fountain of wellness, grieve breaks the bones and wears out the Spirit (which is the real you). Depression suppresses energy for progression.


Amazingly i discovered Scarcity does not exit, Scarcity is only a veil of ignorance, scarcity does not really exit. It may be somewhat difficult for you to agree with me but I show you the truth now. Have you noticed that no matter how bad your condition or financial situation is, there is always a five loaves and two fish around we just always says what can these do? Around you, if you can scan your environment, inherent ability and your house well there is always a cruise of oil that does not fail but we often trivialize its capacity because we don’t know God kept is around to round off our poverty. We often lack the multiplicative capacity to expand the cruise of oil by right and wise investment or exchange. There is always the trinity of inherent ability, skilled acquired by training and supernatural gift that suffocates stagnation!


Martin Luther King Jnr once said “we must accept finite disappointment but we must never lose infinite hope

Depression releases the reality of recession but joy incubates the focused thinking of surpassing abundance. Paul said i have dumped my degrees and skills for the surpassing call on my maker. Dumping doesn’t mean deactivation but rather activating in alignment with God’s will. you are created as a rescue, your craft which is your specific and peculiar skill is your wealth zone beyond recession. That is your cruise of oil and your five loaves plus two fish, if you belittle it you will always resign to the grief of yesterday. strife to improve on what you have been doing, find out why your efforts haven’t yielded the much you expect, take a walk of solitude to ventilate your mind for the new approach to crucify your dilemma.

The truth remains we all have homogeneous issues but our approaches are heterogeneous. That is the wonder of ingenuity. discouragement and complains will lock down your ingenuity. stop spending time with the media news, why get worked up listening to the media woes, settle with the good news that where the script of relevant abundance is discovered and published.  Government don’t resolve recession, recession is a wind (no one can really tell its origin) that sinks those who focus on it but surpassing abundance is with the superior wind which you are according to John 3:8!  no one can tell your future but the book of life in this life and the life to come. if our actions are documented in books, what do you think your action should be today. stay discouraged and downcast? NO! There is more ahead, dig and search it out in the master script. Luke 4:18. Psalms 40:7!

There is more ahead of you, don’t die with yesterday today! The failure of yesterday is gone, get over the friendly enemy of yesterday, get over the betrayal of yesterday, cancel the disappointment of yesterday, start afresh today with all of its abundance and secure your surpassing wealthy posterity.

Business is going to be great today, Promotion is coming today, health is restored today, your husband is coming back today, your baby is arriving today, the test for the long awaited pregnancy is coming positive today. Good things will happen for you today, let yesterday reports die and position to live in the joy of today and well-being of tomorrow.

It became good news that Mary did not have an abortion, don’t abort your hope, you must carry the word of promise until the promise carries out of that condition. your mirror doesn’t give you a full script of you, it explained only your physical but your spirit man can only be pictured in the word. Adjusting the physical body and the intellectual mind cant clean the mess of life up but the renewing the mind and building the Spirit with the word adjust life dramatically.  Your degree, certificate, bank account, physical beauty would not face God in the final analysis, it is your Spirit that will! The word of God is more sure word of prophesy with incorruptibility. Take the pill of the word of God today , accept it and believe it , it will cure all of yesterday’s griefs and any other forever!

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Julius Afolabi.

THE GIFT OF NAAMAN

10 Years ago as a young banker i had an offer to clear a fraudulent cheque valued at #4.2b with a bonus of #100-110m but i declined working with a principle that “whatever i think i cannot make is what i steal ” . That was the gift of Naaman and the appetite of Gehazi!  The person who took the offer was arrested a month after his juicy wedding, lost his job and shattered his early marriage with a frustrated pregnant wife.  Proverbs 15:27a says “He that is greedy of gain troubleth his own house”

Every Good gift and every perfect gift cometh from God the father of all lights with whom there is no variableness neither shadow of turning. James 1:17

Good gift and Perfect gift comes from God not Naaman! it is the perfection of heart that help identify rightness of the gift of Naaman. Not all gifts are meant to be received. our stand with God is what scans the gifts as God instructs us. Am very sure there was a need in the house of the prophet but it wasnt the time and type of Gift that would meet His needs. Only discipline can make a man to reject the gift of Naaman.

A careful observation would let you know that Naaman brought his gift with pride. 2 kings 5:11! Bribe comes with pride and pride comes before destruction. many gifts are entrapment because the gift of a man makes a way for Him. Gehazi didnt appreciate the clothing he had on that reflected the glory of God so he opted for the suit of leprosy. Many subordinates never wonder why there contented boss rejected the gift of Naaman. Many people have received gifts that slaughtered them. ignorance and lack of faith in God always bedevils many. faith and patience are requirements for good and perfect gifts. Your need doe not determine your gift, it is the favor of God that is sponsored by the fear of the Lord that organizes your gift , such gifts lift you and not plant sorrow in your life and future.

Satan also packages gifts that will deflate the life and ministry of many today, satanic gift are everywhere today especially with the scarcity mentality that ignorance portrays all around us. proverbs 9:16-18!

Who is Naaman? The political merchants, the business magnates and the many around with lousy wealthy that create a scene when they come, they blare the siren, they command convoys, they come with presidential notes and letters. The so called celebrities and societal respected offices and Dirty chiefs that expect respect that they can’t earn etc. They let everyone know their presence and they display their posts, staff of offices. Naamans will always see that there is a miracle before they bring gift. 2 kings 5:15!  They make their gift look like they are doing you a favor when they actually need what they don’t have but are in you. Any man who can’t value His worth will always fall for the gift of Naaman.

Faith is a must if you must receive a gift from the good God. He that will come to God must believe that He is the rewarded of them that diligently seek him. Naaman waited until his leprosy was cleansed before He believed that there is God in Israel. That is not the divine order. Faith is a prerequisite for perfect gifts.

 


Gehazi couldn’t control his appetite for the gift of Naaman! Through many studies and observation i have discovered that whatsoever has no boundary is a bondage! Even the garden of Eden had controls and boundaries! 


Today, in many offices, businesses and ministries the gift of Naaman has paralyzed efficiency and effectiveness of their operations. Many positions have been used as compensations and exchange strategies because of the gift of Naaman, special services that ought to be for the salvation of souls, spiritual edification for the needy, sick, challenged are now organized for Naamans. Hands that are to be laid on young Elisha’s are now laid because of the gift of Naaman. The church even observes Pareto to attend to humanity but Jesus didn’t even despise children that had nothing to give.

Many professionals and educated people cannot value the worth of their learning so they fall prey to filthy gifts of Naaman that put leprosy on their years of education and expertise. Can’t you see the ridicule in our nation today? Well educated people in the net of messy bribery and corruption. They couldn’t kill the gehazi inside them, so they run after the gift of Naaman. Adultery and fornication is also the gift of Naaman that will run destiny down and leave your life with a low or no battery to energize the pursuit of your vision.

Many leaders, ministers, professional and even pastors facilitate the gift of Naaman by displaying desperation either stylishly or frankly. That is why a low esteemed pastor who doesn’t know that his lift is in gift that comes from God not Naaman will make demands or send sms or specially greet or accord attention to selected Naamans in his congregation and many times it devalues their anointing and their leadership. They suddenly become dry wells that can’t quench the thirst of the people again just like Gehazi they fade away shamefully. Elisha knew his anointing was not a result of manipulation. It was a processed in the furnace of a right walk with God.

The Jesus in you is worth countless times what any man in this passing world can dare to offer you! Sterilize your offers and reject the gift of Naaman for your true prosperity and posterity. What inheritance do you want to leave for your generation? Honor or leprosy! Elisha is remembers as a generational hero but Gehazi is remembered a caution and curse because of the gift of Naaman.

Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? can one go upon hot coals and his feet not be burned?

Beware of the gift of Naaman. John 12:26!

Think about your end irrespective of what you do or the position you occupy! Selah!

Julius Afolabi

THE GREATNESS IN YOU!

You are the light of the world, city set upon the hill that cannot be hid. Matthew 5:14. Don’t let your sour experience hide you! God is aware and has the way out.

Getting admission into all levels of my educational pursuit was a sour experience but today the wisdom of God has made me a solution carrier in counsel and business strategy. Is there anything difficult before God especially when you submit to Him? Certainly NO! Your case is not closed; your sour experiences can become your lemonade of impact, influence and income!

Every sour experience of life is a proof of the greatness within you. Many of our sour experiences are seeds of impact, influence and wealth. Many people would never have impacted their world if they had no sour experiences.

The world wouldn’t have celebrated a man like Abraham Lincoln if he hadn’t the sour experiences of serial failure. It was a dangerous sickness that ushered the greatness of Kenneth Hagin’s life. It is the terribleness of poverty that made many people to think and grow rich. what lemonade of value are you going to make of your sour experiences in life to be a blessing to humanity?

The bible is a bank of solution options better than any level of education or human therapy. The bible is the word of God that is true!

What are you passing through? Trust God and believe in Him to see you through so that you can tell the tales of your experiences to preserve many and impact your world.

That poor man cried unto the Lord, the Lord heard him and delivered him from all his troubles. Psalms 34:6! Unto Him that answereth prayers shall all flesh come! Prayers is telling your sour experiences to God because vain is the help of man!

What are your sour experiences today, in your life, marriage, business, career or health? Go tell them to God today! Go to church today, listen to the word of God genuinely, rededicate your life back to God where needful and if you haven’t given your life to Christ before , do so today and let God turn your trials and tribulations to testimonies of triumph and you tell your story you make impact and income.

You are born great to live great, there is greatness in you irrespective of your sour experiences, don’t die little.

Have a blast of revival today in Jesus name!

Julius Afolabi ..

TEN LIFE LESSONS FROM THE POOL OF BETHESDA

Reading this story again in John 5:1-15, i received TEN revelations worth sharing and discovered that, the main message of the man by the pool of Bethesda was after his healing. He was around the temple yet far from healing. Jesus met him again and said to Him, “Go and sin no more lest a worst thing happen to you”, what a pregnant summary! This infers a lot of life lessons from the scene.

  1. God is merciful to all, the man didn’t know Jesus when Jesus walked to Him and released him. Truly his banner over us is Love. God is love and while we were yet sinners Christ died for us. No matter how bad you may be, salvation is still available to you since you have life. Sin sinks but Salvation lifts! God is ready to talk to us if you are willing to open up.
  2. Sin is the hammer that fastens bondage as a nail to a man’s life! Sin will keep a man in circles but not progression. The man’s sin had kept him in same position for 38 years. Shall we continue in sin and expect grace to abound? Iniquity is the sponsor of infirmity and stagnation. Sin keeps a man not too far to solution and fixed in his infirmity.
  3. He was between the temple and the pool of healing. Solution is always around us if we care to observe and become willing to obey! Many people are also on the fence, carnal today and spiritual tomorrow. Just like indifference is no solution, so their situations do not shift its position. Indifference is not a decision but a delusion, it is a self risk!
  4. The words of a messiah save but the words of a liar inflict pain. The man couldn’t take his bed until word came from the Messiah. Only the words of the Messiah can change any condition or situation. Who you listen to determines how you act or respond.
  5. The man was in around the pool of impotent folks. His situation was impotent because he was around impotent folks. Your folks determine your fold and mold.
  6. The man was surrounded by captives that made him a captive. His company were impotent (unproductive), blind (lack of vision), withered (Expired) and waiting (idle and excuse driven). What good would come from such a company! You are about what surround you!
  7. Loathsomeness extends captivity. The loathsomeness of many would deny them the possibilities they are qualified for. The first to step in was made whole. The holes in many lives are in their slothfulness towards an opportunity. Opportunity is to be attacked with the alacrity of preparation. It will not come to you; you will have to go for it. Frustration is being position but incapacitated.
  8. Disposition explains mentality. Your disposition determines your position or opposition. Attitude is a chosen posture! It wasn’t difficult for Jesus to know he had been there for long because of the way he laid. If you fold your hands in hard times, life will fold you into long term frustration.
  9. Lack of identity will make a scapegoat. The man had no name because it could be anyone. If you don’t define yourself and your stand, you will eventually be a scapegoat. The man’s affliction ended when he got to know Jesus such that he could tell others that it was Jesus that changed his story.
  10. Irresponsibility provides wrong answers to the right questions. the man was asked “would thou be made whole” and he responded “i have no man, when the water is troubled to put me into the pool”. Irresponsible people look for who or what to blame for their condition. Irresponsible people have ready-made explanations for failure rather than a reason to succeed. Responsibility is not a suggestion, it is an obligation.

I hope these lessons would sponsor a review of our life endeavors and a just reflection as we plan for the years ahead!

Great week ahead. God bless you as you share.

Julius Afolabi.

MARRIAGE AND WEDDING TIPS IN RECESSION

Prudence is superior to recession. Love is wise.  Recession should suspend your wedding!

In all sincerity, Recession shouldn’t stop your wedding if you have matured your preparation for marriage. Stop postponing your marriage if you are ripe, life is a race against time. The major factor is marrying right and Making the right decision. It is not about what people will say, it is what your experience and life will be after the wedding that is crucial. it is important not to enter marriage because of wedding or pressure, if you are frustrated before wedding, you will be humiliated in marriage. Don’t know it all, pride ushers disgraceful fall. Seek the face of God and seek counsel from spiritually matured people prayerfully.

Here are a few tips to tip off your slumber and economic fear. Wedding is only a bridge not a location!

Many people want to impress people and depress themselves. It is the marriage that matters o.
– It is not how flamboyant your wedding is, it is how blissful your marriage will be. Your wedding budget has no correlation with your marital joy. Understanding is the differential. You don’t need a deficit budget to fix your wedding, your marriage will have an unfavorable balance and then you swim into validating your decision. Debt driven wedding makes marriage a liability.
– Wedding card is a disposable, who said you can’t print letters? its an invite not a wall plaque.
– If you slaughter countless cows men will still complain. People are invited to witness not to consume. Refreshment is not 3 square meal.
– Rather than owe to fix wedding, sow a seed to seal your marriage.
– Some churches don’t take offerings in wedding ceremonies, why should officiating ministers demand honorarium? Let God honor you. Jesus our example said I receive no honor from men. John 5:41!
– Many Aso ebi don’t last beyond the wedding neither are they true symbols of family love and unity. Marital and family unity is superior to aso ebi unity. Even wicked uncles and auntys wear aso ebi.
– Engagement and wedding could be done the same day. Time is life. Merge the expenses. It will reduce accommodation expense and inconvenience challenges. Serious people are busy.
– You don’t have to buy two rings, get a wedding band. The commitment is between the couples not the world. The people who will say you don’t have an engagement ring will see your wedding band. Two rings self no be weight?
– Thank God wedding gowns can be rented but where you can afford, buy one. If you cant, rent one, after all you are not going to announce that you did. The major matter is ensure you pray fervently over the rented gown so that you don’t import the marital realities of those who have used that you may never know their spiritual and personal status. Life is deep! Some people say wedding gown are ceremonial burial garment. its all a tradition of old tale! Would the ceremonial burial gown change the eternal home of the person? It is what you did with your life and choice that matter at death. Duet 30:19. Let’s get out of tradition and face the truth.
– Be happy with those that didn’t attend your wedding but are praying for your marriage than those who attended but wish you hell in the marriage or showed up for analysis and mockery.
– Traditional rites should not be a rope of suicide, if all God who gives and sustain life is only asking for our choice to obey Him, (Ecc 12:13) why should any man compel people for excessive material demands with financial burden. Pray to God concerning what you can give to Caesar, humbly seek discounts. Ask, negotiate. Be spiritual not traditional too, because the gift of a man is a point of contact. Pray about everything!!! God will help you and grant you favor once your bed and courtship process is not defiled.

Don’t let recession be an excuse! If you can afford a colorful wedding why not but if you can’t don’t die in depression. It is marital experience that is the color of your wedding.

Purposeful Life is not for comparison, everyone has his or her lane. Don’t compare and contrast till you frustrate yourself. Life is an individual race. Every man shall be accountable for himself.

With these few wits of mine, i believe i have relieved you of the mask of economic fear!

Please share, freely contribute and comment objectively.

Julius Afolabi