LADIES, AGE IS NOT A DISADVANTAGE!

 

If you desire marriage, it is a prophetic evident that God has a partner for you. – #juliusafolabi

I am puzzled at the alarming rate of desperation and relational ignorance that has pemeated the youthfulness of this generation. Obviously the beast and devil attacking marriages and families is ruthlessly on rampage and many youths are daily gullible with painful abuses, sexual robbery and heart wrecking disappointment.

Sister, You may not have gotten it right at a younger age, it doesn’t take away your senses and dignity. Age is not a disadvantage that should condition an ignorant desperation that subjects you to ridicule and tolerant abuse of your dignity. That you are 35,40 or more does not intimidate God if you are sincere and living uprightly. Many suggestions would visit you, pressures would scare you but no one will live your mistake. Going diabolical will only ruin you. You will fetch emotional war without end. No diabolic solution without a sorrowful repercussion!

They may call you executive spinster, when you get it right and God settles you, they will change the label and libel! I Chronicles 4:9-10!

There is one who will love you surprisingly the way you are. The question is how have you made yourself? Look to the mirror and inside you, would you marry you? If you have some flaws, Forgive your youthful errors, correct them now and stay focused. Don’t be tempted to fill you are comfortable without a man if you are not wired so. That paradigm would mess you up! Submission is not difficult if you are humble. No man can stay with the weakness of pride. Not all men can handle it, amazingly no one can be proud without knowing. They may only be insensitive. Sister, age is not a factor to desecrate your womanhood.

Yes, numbers intimidate the flesh but your mentality shouldn’t be harrassed. Age is not a disadvantage neither is single parenting honorable. Don’t make yourself incompatible to who is coming! Don’t tweek your hormones to accept who you can’t synch with. Sister, Any relationship you desperately force will convulse, It’s going to be loveless and parasitic plus dishumanising.

Listen, don’t fall for the emotional-time trick. Many ladies have been wounded by this syndrome. Especially busy ladies in the professional and corporate circle with corporate profile (banking, exotic businesses) don’t be a slave to emotional messmerization.

This is the trick, Emotional hunters know you don’t have time but have money. They have time but no money. You are very busy and lack effective relationship attention. They are parasites with the heart of a vampire. They know you are busy Monday to Friday and and must have lost out on some fun, he is ready to tangle you for weekend with a trick to fill the fun void. I know you have blood running in you and you are human but what you need now is not hormonal excitement or emotional bedmate at that age. What you need is a commitment.

Love is a devotion you are convinced about to deploy emotions that will be spiritually managed! – #juliusafolabi

It is detrimental to be sentimental. Nothing is hidden under the sun, those you don’t know, know that you are secretly sleeping around. It is equally shameful if you can keep your job but can’t keep your home. That’s a technical emo-professional imbalance. What is the honor of been a corporate single parent out of carelessness. You can control yourself. Sexual impurity won’t help you either, it would damage your love language.

Did you lose your husband but desire to remarry. Widowhood does not edit God’s plan and purpose for your life. God knows what you don’t, stay in aligned to God. John 15:5

Sister, you are not a bastard, don’t bastardize your dignity. Casual sex is not casual, the stakes are not casual. Many of those guys runs the tapes of your escapes and may reach your possible man. Stop being a mess that shouldn’t be. #juliusafolabi

Kick out that guy that is not ready to be committed. Quit being a lapdog. Stop the satanic procession. It’s not fun, you are being foolish. Hospitals don’t diagnose foolishness,life does with pains. Reinvent now I beg you, you are the determinants of what is late and without repairs.

#Character is an evergreen marital asset. Fertility does not expire with God. Stay under control, God never forsakes any. The day you are ready to hear God, God is ready to speak to you. Invest time in knowing God’s plan for you. What you find in the word won’t fail. Isaiah 34:16!

Sister, you are already 35,40 or more, don’t make it worse with a careless and gullible decision. You are not expired. Don’t give up, there is a BOAZ coming.

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Culled from “Close the Gap” authored by Julius Afolabi.

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THE VALIDITY OF AN EXECUTED LIFE

THE VALIDITY OF AN EXECUTED LIFE! By Julius Afolabi

To execute is to put completely into effect, to be fully maximised by defined design. Execution is sentencing emptiness to death by resourceful maximization of action!

Years ago I read a quote ” He that will not when he should, shall not when he will”. This got me thinking and questioning the thought paradigm and viola I got it. “Time messes you up when you dishonor it”. In essence, Living without execution of intention is attention to regretful obsolete capacity. It simply means if you waste your time doing nothing profitable, when you will want to do it, the viscosity and capacity would have gone. May you not wish you did what you should have done, in Jesus name!

The preacher said ” if a man lives many years, and rejoice in them all: let him remember the days of darkness, for they shall be many. All that cometh is vanity”. He didn’t stop. He went further ” Rejoice, O young man in thy youth, and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and WALK IN THE WAYS of thy heart, in the SIGHT of thine eyes: but know thou, that that FOR ALL THESE THINGS GOD WILL BRING THEE INTO JUDGEMENT. Ecclesiastes 11:8-9.

Those words are thick! See how I see it “THE VALIDITY OF OUR LIFE IS IN THE NATURE AND CULTURE OF OUR ALIGNMENT WITH OUR ASSIGNMENT!

Time is a finite resource here, it walks unstopped and uninterrupted. While you are inactive, time is active. Result is the report of time utility and action management. Action management is not on your school syllabus, it is a self enterprising skill! I invest time to redefine my actions in alignment with my assignment. John 15:5!

The secret is ” I AM BENT ON MANIFESTING GOD’S GLORY” in ALL I do! You should too! You are not without the capacity!

Successful people maximise their constructive phase! We are all in it pee time.

Jeff Boss learnt most in his teenage, at 16 he had gotten good business experience at back-end McDonalds. He was posted to the back and restricted from that front-end, but he learnt the tricks and power of interfacing with the customers from the back-end. That mastery launched what we see today. Warren Buffet began selling at age 5, at 14, he already had entrepreneurial experience with partnership, at 19 he had read over 100 books on investment, at 20-22, went to Columbia University and met his mentor Benjamin Graham who was a guru in security analysis. After graduation he volunteered in Graham’s management consulting institute. Now he is an investment genius with yet a modest lifestyle. What am I saying? Don’t embrace the exotic without submitting to the discipline of the basic! All front liners have back-end pruning that sustain their spark in the front.

Stop being a dependent passenger. Being driven without understanding driving! That is an accidented life! Explore your potentials, upgrade and update curriculum of your life. Your life is a subject to be studied not abhorred because you died in inaction!

Satan is not that black huge guy with horns in front of the head religion painted him, Satan is simply “little errors in judgement” that vitiatee the validity of life.

There is an obvious generational gap in the leadership of our beloved country. They can’t give us what we need! They can’t align with the mechanics of the times. Let the reserved surface, Elijah was surprised about the 7000 potently separated. Let’s emerge, Until we proof otherwise, we may be hooked and hedged in. Our edge is in our action. What are you doing now to save same old story. Are you sane and sound enough to confront injustice? Do you hold the baton of true power in the most high like Daniel to deactivate other gods, the superiority of the rod of Moses was that it swallowed the rods of the magicians. The cabals don’t sleep, if we keep sleeping, the leadership will slip off us again.

One thing is truth, we are not born in a wrong time, we didn’t decide that but we’re designed to live out the potentials. In their days smart phones were not imagined, their configuration can’t spy it. Here we are dymistifying digital privilege. Let leverage the mentality not just the technology.

Donald Trump was relevant before contesting for presidency. He didn’t need fund raising. He knew the market. He may still need some tooling but he had defeated what could stop an average Nigerian youth. All I am saying is “Let’s command value that humbles money!

It is not the length of life but the content of life. Content rightly deployed defines impact and legacy.

John 21:25 vividly elaborated that mankind will not recover from that exploits of Jesus’s life. We have been schooled by religion and manipulated by the flesh to think, we can’t beat the John 14:12 mark. The validity of life is alignment with assignment.

If you do nothing, you become nothing. Even though, There is a difference between “I can’t do it and I will not do it”, Both are failures still. Make a resolve!

Don’t die inactive!

Live PROACTIVE!

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MENTAL SUPERIORITY POSITIONING..

MENTAL SUPERIORITY POSITIONING

But Daniel resolved that he would not defile himself with the kings rich food or with the wine which he drink, therefore he asked the chief of the enunchs to allow him not to defile himself. Daniel 1:8!

Today, compromise is the air many breathe to live, corruption is thriving because compromise is gaining acceptance in the heart ognmany day and night. We have decided to silence conscience, how sad we have forgotten in a hurry that every situation is a season that will expire, time is not a friend, it is an aid.

Our nation suffers from personal and professional compromise. Are we saying the Special Intelligence Bureau don’t have a map of statistics to arms possessions, the police knows the places and positions of heavy arms possessor and their sponsors but compromise wouldn’t let true national safety happen.

In political economics and incumbency operations, there is what is called Distraction Strategy. Its an incumbency machination that selects nations issues and fabricate a positive distraction to win accolades and shield known failures. it’s all a compromise operation!

No sector of the economy can experience any good with compromising people and policies.

Police and Political compromise are realities Nigerians live with. Traditions don’t bring change, our recycling leadership can’t make any difference. It is the same old thinking, it’s time to innovate with resourceful youthfulness.

The question is, how many youths are willing to let go the compromise factor and face the fortunes of the future?

Many times, our suppositions and assumptions conflict with our conviction. There are invisible reactions that happen in milliseconds. What defiles always comes from within but the external always make an invitation to treat. The mind is the conversation conversion point. Your superiority to your situation is fashioned by your reasoning capacity. I call it perspective intelligence!

Daniel analyzed the intention of the offer against his conviction about who determines the times and seasons and took a position.

Compromise is a decision from within!
You need another spirit with a transformed mind to become distinguished. What can you let go? Decision positions you and God rarely overwrites our will.

Compromise is trying to help yourself which you can’t. Proverbs 16:25, Jeremiah 10:23! Our help is in the name of the Lord. Psalsm! 121:1-2! Get it right, If you do what they do, you will end the way they have all ended. No thief has ever ended well except the ones that repent of their compromising status genuinely. Remember the one by Jesus’s cross? What you don’t have now you have not matured to handle.

In Babylon, those that didn’t compromise were happier and healthier. They became celebrities and those who compromised became nonentities and victims. There is a superior mentality that you need and it comes through a transformed mind and spirit. Read more in
Numbers 13:30, 14:24! Daniel 5:13-14, 1 Cor 2:9-11, Phil 2:5, Job 32:8.

Character is the foundation of sustainable success. Fruits of the Spirit are character moulding blocks. Gifts of the Spirit are the empowerment that comes from God after character has been built. God is only waiting for your character moulding to flow mightily inside you. Those who have gift but not character are scams that don’t last. We see them around!

Competence is capacity to solve problems, ability to dissolve doubts, complexities and turn things around. People with this superior mentality of no compromise change their world!

What do you intend to do with your life. To end like other failures you have heard of or triumph like you were designed to?

Build character, develop competence, look unto God and celebrate your destined success. It takes humanity and divinity to fulfill destiny?

Your value is highest when your name is written in the book of life. Luke 10:20!

with compromise we die daily, If you are not saved , you are not safe! Why die when you can live?

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PACKAGING AND QUALITY : THE NEW BRANDING PARADOX

Branding without quality is the new paradox.. Before you place value on packaging, think through quality. .. Julius Afolabi 

Godliness with contentment is great gain. 1 Timothy 6:6!

The master profounded stated… Not all that call me Lord, Lord shall be saved. 

Dead conscience has bastardized branding!

Branding is the integrity of process and quality of management exposed.

Quality is the valued state of a thing, product, service, event, project and other endeavours. Branding is the promise of quality met consistently with economic efficiency.

Today, branding has become the rave of the moment, amazingly it has gone all through the fabric of humanity. Essentially a product with low or no packaging cum branding will have a low or no perceived value and will generate poor or no sales. How awful? Trading without branding is kindagarten.

Business, career and vocation has become vague without branding. Economically, socially and spiritually, true branding or packaging does not violate quality.

Quality is the purest value of a brand.

Package calls attention but quality embosses value, integrity and loyalty.

Branding has become a universal language that has overtaken the understanding of many people, businesses and organizations. However, Branding has been misinterpreted in most corners of business, career and ministry. For example, What do you call or how do you value of a business with a deceptive advertisement? Deception because service promise or product details failed to hit the promise hype or chant? Branding hype?  Better still how do you value the business that religiously observes morning devotion yet will cheat customers or deceive them? Spiritual branding? Further,  Public offices with huge value wall plaques and fellowships that yet embezzle public funds? Maybe, Our generation buys beauty without value. It’s why, Divorce statistics is high  because we have more of impulse marriages today that sacrifice process for impatient personal attraction. We seem to have forgotten that virginity is a brand and quality but without character it holds little or looses worth! It’s some what amazing to think we can produce quality without a true moral fibre! Philemon 1:6!

Deception has gained economic supremacy!  The devil is now manifesting as angel of light. It is time we get off the artistry black painting of the devil. The devil is airborne and connects faster than internet for those who create accommodation for him.

Financial integrity has equally been violated through mindless accounting packaging called creative accounting which seeks to build an empty value into the book of that enterprise. Knowledge growth without decorum will produce rogues. All I am saying is that Knowledge and research has provided financial branding of business books in deception of the true and fair state of the enterprise.

More so,  we see tragic world decadence because many societal vices have been renamed and branded to cover or to package hideous perpetrations. Professionals now use packaging to hide quality, it is more of perceive value than real value. Branding is about intrinsic and extrinsic value. Branding is a combination of packaging and quality. Packaging and quality is a distinction without a difference. Branding is not a deceptive coincidence but a coin of reputation. How sad, The externalities have taken over the sense of quality content. Painfully,  Professionals now gravitate towards being flashy to gather ignorant client to their risk. We present gaseous ephemerals to elope solid content of quality. We pride certificates that are dishonored instruments of professional bankruptcy because of personal errors and serial losses. Certification has become the branding without the real value of rescue that true learning is meant to serve humanity.

Many Schools now brand beyond relevant curriculum. The crowd mentality has taken over the quality paradigm that schooling is meant to occasion. By observation, This initiative melted into the organogram of education through affiliation with foreign schools just to proof sophisticated especially in Nigeria! In true terms, the idea is brilliant but the intention has become questionable. Conscience is absent!

The speed of change has improved cosmetics and today many look more artificial than normal. What a lie called branding but in truth bodily lies,living lies and packaged fake. A low quality suppressed with packaging. We have forsaken the beauty of the inner man, character of the heart and purity of privacy.

Government and social education are also branding fornication with the contraceptive idea rather than offering the best quality of abstinence and purity.

We have submitted the ultimate for an option and the barren option for an obligation. We claim to protect ST diseases which is not even absolute rather than destiny.

Leadership has been branded with impotent crossings rather than responsibility with integrity. Many leaders have forgotten that the quality of their leadership is the legacy of their brand. Leader, what will live after you? Daddy, mummy, what will be the testimony of your children? Hmm…True models are now scarce, what is available are packaged liars and blind guides.

Young people have gone yoked and contaminated with strength without honor and color. They are dressed up without addressing the necessary. They hustle wrongly and seek pleasure without pleasing their future. Strength wrongly channeled is stress. Stress is poor quality and ill branded health! All we have are branded and broken youths by idols of the mind. A waste walking and wandering without knowing. Am perturbed, Where is the quality of youthfulness today! To them, Education has become the frustration of the soul. Research has become tough demands despite fertility of the mind! The youths have become brands of no honor!

Quality youthfulness is knowing that we are accountable to God for our lifestyle. Ecclesiastes 9:11! Oh, how we have branded tomorrow without quality yet we claim sophistication and digitalization. 2 Timothy 3:7! Nothing is digital without a true conscience. A brand is a badge of honor.

Technology is designed to improve the quality and brand of life not to destroy, infest and contaminate purity. Purity is quality and a brand. We are to be brands plucked out of fire like the word that birthed us.

Bad enough the church has become terribly infested with the branding idea. Paul was stern with Timothy, preach the word in season and out of season, reprove, rebuke, exhort with all long suffering and doctrine. 2 Timothy 4:1-5! Today, the church has seasoned her message. Miracles have become the packaging that has ruptured the principle of work that balances faith. James 2:18! Prophecy has become the branding effect of ministry no longer holiness and godliness. Even the congregation prefers the entertainment rather than the encounters, what a brand the church has taken. The church has become more of a tourist center instead of an atmosphere of divine presence, concerned more about numbers than disciples. The church programme is filled with man made activities that add no spirituality to the congregation. The church wants lofty members who are hypocrites to package the church, the criminals and societal robbers fund the church projects and often want to determine the message. Church has become a business network than a spiritual gathering according to Hebrews 10:25! Men have become idols of the temple. Idols of the mind now control the message rather than Holy Spirit inspired teaching. The word in the  church is now packaged as interpretation of men even when the word of God is not of any man’s interpretation. We garnish the word of God even when we are admonished not to add or reduce the originality of the word. This is Certainly not the brand of gospel Jesus delivered to the Saints. We have forgotten Jesus went to the temple and sanitized it because Rather than build on the word, we are building on wonders. Branding without quality is claiming to be a Christian but walking in darkness of ignorance and laziness to search for the truth. Spirituality is a walk not a claim.1 John 1:6! 2 John1:4, 3John1:4!
Revival is the true brand of walking with God! John 3:3,8!

Jesus is the brand of quality and superior quality amongst all brands of men. John 14:6!

In all our branding and quality assurance, if we forget that there is a way that seemeth right unto a man but the end are the ways of destruction and death as stated in proverbs 16:25!

Branding without quality is nothing but the demonstration and manifestation of the love of money. 1 Timothy 6:10!

Many times branding are geared towards increasing price with a view of making money rather than making branding a support for quality to make a product or service a complete package of excellence. Money is a benefit of purity and quality not merely branding.

Branding is inferior without quality and branding is worthless without conscience.

It is after we die or life ends on this side of eternity that we will know the brand and quality of our life. Hebrews 9:27, Revelation 22:12!

Prepare to meet thy God! Amos 4:12!

Don’t be a brand without quality and don’t be a quality without a brand.

All things are possible to him that believes.

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COMMUNICATE WITH SENSE

 

COMMUNICATE WITH SENSE

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God captured the life, destiny and eternity in words. John 1:1-3, 6:48,63,68!

Let your communication be as a sound doctrine and medicine. Titus hits right! 2:1,8!

Paul captures it thus: let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth but that which is good to the use of edifying that it may minister grace to hearers. Ephesians 4:29

SENSE is mostly visible and spoken.

Communication skill is a universal asset. It kills and it saves. Curses and blessings are words simulated with actions. Behaviour is a visual communication. Words cover and discharge life! Mark 11:23!

Business, life and career are classed by strategic communication. Life itself is a communication! Advertisement is simply monetising attention through communication. All Jesus communicated was and is Love.

Communication is powerful and can make a fool of a person. Confident is advertised with terror. Honor is in the dignity of respect and responsibility.

Man is human but can become an animal with careless pride. The first person who calls another an animal is actually the first breed.

Some uniform men are such, they talk with threats and breathe horrible pride yet they are meant to secure life and property. A proud person secure nothing because pride destroyes. In the developed world uniform men are most respectful, yet very deadly. They understand the dignity of being human. When you become an animal then they become snipers. That is culture and training. Nigeria doesn’t have that in the force curriculum neither do individuals value it, just a handful and the difference is often Very clear.

Pride derides opportunity, pride is the poster of ignorance, the ground we walk will still accommodate us.

Don’t insult others with position. some bosses language is only threats, I will fire you, are you a moron, animal, obviously they have forgotten threats don’t improve their honor.

Man will always Match the ground anyhow forgetting that it will someday house him.

Thread softly, life is short, we are all performers whose scene will expire someday!

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THE POWER OF CONCENTRATION

Concentration controls productivity!

Let us make MAN in our own image..after our likeness and let THEM(You are a multiple and multiplier), let them have dominion in and over the earth. Genesis 1:26-28!

In the above, God fashioned a principle of life engagement for innovative posterity. God define a concept of creativity for dominion solution. This is why without unity nothing works.

Today, the inability to concentrate has destroyed people, businesses, organization, marriages, ideas, ministries, community etc. Lack of true unity in the church has made domination more obvious than the dominion mandate. With domination, God will scatter to spread. The church will be persecuted to scatter it so that the gospel will spread. Watch it.

Colonialism was successful by divide and rule. Marriages without agreement are physically, mentally and spiritually barren. This is why divorce is painful, it is a rough and terrible amputation. Organizations without teamwork under-performs. Businesses without cohesive understanding of their trade dies. Nations without shared values never thrive. why? No point of concentration to produce value!

The concentration in that meeting in Genesis 1:26 created the wonder called man. The creation is an inference from the resident architecture being supplied to reality. The shape of man is the image construct of function. This means if you are tall, it is tied to your function. It doesn’t make you disabled or unaccepted.

Isaac concentrated the birthcycle of the old breed of the flock on an image in his mind and a new breed of flocks according to his mental image. Innovation is a function of concentration on an image of solution.

if you can think well and concentrate on your build, you will know you were born in the right time, season and country. you are not disadvantaged, you only haven’t discovered your uniqueness that makes you relevant.

Imagination is the concentration of the mind on possibilities, the highest level of human creativity. Image is a construction of concentration. Concentration is a definition by focused thinking. If you imagine, matter how big, God does beyond your image construct. Ephesians 3:20!

It takes knowledge of God to simplify complex things but ignorance makes many things mystic and complicated. Right thinking makes you access the available. There is nothing we will look for in the future that God has not built in the beginning, the assignment is to commit to concentrate on Him to access it.

There is a synch when language is uniform and barriers are broken, security is established and commitment is evoked. Today, we are still dazed about what happened in the upper room. Why? There was a concentration that birthed the unusual by the unity of an uncommon language. This language was the result of a concerted expectation, a concentration of imagination of a promise from one who cannot lie!

Meditation and solitude are forces engaged to concentrate on possibilities. If you meditate on what is good, you can’t go bad. The steps of a good man are orders by the Lord. A good man out of the abundance of his heart bringeth forth good things. Good and perfect gifts comes from God, this means you can’t concentrate on godly value, divine principles and become useless.

Hmm. When you concentrate on the word of God, you imagine uncommon things, a revelation is happening and an invention being construction that will give a solution to a situation is being fashioned. Speaking in tongues is not an exercise but rather a download. A vertical impartation and unlock of codes that Satan can’t abort.

Concentration gets you attached to your idea!
We are birthed to build not destroy. Unity builds. Another name for concentration is unity.
without unity nothing holds together, this means canvassing for a division is a spot of ignorance. They have a challenge of focusing on the new advantage of extracting greatness from the incompatibility through ignorance. Ignorance makes distraction attractive and devalues creativity and potency of productive viability.

In all, what am I saying? Every concentration has a source! what are you concentrating on in your life. what is your concentration going to heal, produce, inspire, invent, renew, inculcate and transform.. my concentration is to add value in a manner that turns men to righteousness. It is the principle of vergreen stars! Daniel 12:3

Unity is the focus of value. Concentration is the unity of mind to create solutions to a situation! Concentration powers performance in the direction of mental image.

You don’t have a problem, change your concentration!

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SOARING IN MARRIAGE

The Soar of the Eagle is admirable feat loved by all; amazingly that emergence takes a conscious backend preparation. Mysteriously, the Eagle would pick up stuffs beyond its personal weight. If your marriage must soar on Eagle’s wings, you must understand that reality.

Two are better than one and they have a synergy greater than their individual energy! Ecc 4:9-12!God is awesome; no wonder we are only complete in Him.

Exactly Nine years ago, we said “ I do and I will”, Thank God they have not been empty words but words of commitment. That smile when I spotted you hasn’t changed because it was natural. The design of the face doesn’t confirm an honest smile! You are not cosmetic! Thank you for remaining supernaturally natural! I appreciate the way we discuss business analytically! The Cement of the Love of God has embellished our going, to Him alone be all the glory. We are not perfect but God made us perfect. Without Reservation, I must thank you Linda, for being who you are, forgiving my faults and forbearance in the storm and sweet sails. Those words that it will be alright and don’t seat on your laurels are treasures of your commitment to those double turbo words “I will and I do”. In no mean weight we are living what we share in transparency of hearts not minding how bad we often feel when we must make good right. Thank you for the wonderful children we bear and nurture! What more can I say, God is good to us and we are mostly grateful!

Now, Marriage can only soar when couples actually couple. Wedding is not marriage, marriage is sustaining wedding! Your wedding may be intimidating; it takes emotional and spiritual bravery to sustain marriage. Intelligent people have lost their marriage because they ignored insight! Many weddings are alive in the heart of the public but are dead under the roofs and in the heart of the couples. Wedding is very cheap but marriage cost a fortune especially sustaining it. When God said Seek me first, he added that all provisions would be supplied. (Matthew 6:33, Philippians 4:19).God understands the role of finance in marriage; you know we are espoused to God in redemption. Romance needs finance! Money is very important in marriage but it is not the ultimate. Money has rooted out love in many marriages. Couples must have a pool; else they will accommodate struggles and famine. A joint account doesn’t make you lesser a man or foolish a women when your love and reasoning is honest! it shows Trust, Partnership, Purpose, Oneness and Love! Some women pay bills but won’t keep quiet and some men can’t take their eyes off their wife’s salary! Look beyond the money bag! Money has made many marriages sole proprietors rather than Unlimited liability companies.

  • Marriage takes a man of purpose and a woman of wisdom. Purpose decides what wisdom manages; a home is born with both! A home needs a vision and vision needs people, vision without people suffers! Couples need each other always in marriage. We live in an immoral world where lust has become a daily trademark, advert and offer. The potency of lust convertibility is made potent with a little emotional carelessness and a carnal trial! A good marriage seconds love with mutually loving sex, be naked and not ashamed with each other. Stay in-charge sexually, talk and teach each other within biblical context, be willing to learn and innovate as inspired within godly context. God made sex but unauthorized dealers polluted it and initiated infidelity. Infidelity is a life liability! That’s a tough pill for unguarded youths of today. Unauthorized sexual is the reason for many marital failures today, statistics are heart wrecking. Satan spearheads lust to get people lost and loss marital and eternal bliss. You can’t be an eagle with unauthorized sex; you stay a vulture or worst still a vulnerable chicken.

Life is a journey of storms and glides, smiles and frowns, tough and tasteful times, there are battles and there will be victories; offences will come, it’s a harsh reality any two intending couple must be ready to walk through together. A good guy may not be the right man and a beautiful nice lady may not be God’s will for you. Good is a far cry from RIGHT but good can be made right! Paul quietly told the people of Ephesus “therefore do not be foolish but understand what the Lord’s will is”.  (Ephesians 5:17). If you don’t marry God, you can’t marry right and if you don’t submit to God you can’t make a good marriage right and sustain it. The world is not positioned to keep marriage standing, the world and its worldliness is structure to collapse the joy of marriage. Love is life and life is a school, ignorance makes a mockery of love because you will later discover you made a wrong choice due to insufficient knowledge!

Solomon carefully said, For the soul to be without knowledge, IT IS BAD! tough wisdom I must say!

The love of God is the platform for marriage to soar; no woman can completely submit and maintain respect without the love of God. I can confidently position that no man can absolutely love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her without the love of God. (Ephesians 5:22;25)Technically a divorce has taken place when forgiveness and forbearance is undervalued in marriage; it takes the love of God to practice both rightly. Marriage is a personal asset that holds value before God, if you undervalue it, you will lose value before God because it is a covenant commitment. (Mal 2:15)

  • Love is a riddle and puzzle to many and when that is the case marriage becomes a punishment or war! Marriage is a united force that couples must consciously lose their individual position into, it takes agreement for couples to soar in marriage. Two factors crucial forgiveness and forbearance, this is the omission in many divorce cases! No two couples got a divorce that denies love between them but they either could not forgive the hurts or couldn’t forbear proofing change. On the wedding day divorce was completely absent but as marriage began new realities suggested divorce and couples ignorantly jumped at it. Divorce is divided love but love can’t be divided, it means they didn’t understand love. Unlearning couples are marriage laggards that undervalued the key performance insights! Love is not ignorant. Read, learn and study to approve your soar in marriage. Marriage is not trouble, you are meant to soar!

For every turbulent marriage, I say peace to your storms in Jesus name. For every quiet marriage, your children shall surround your table. For the marrying marriage, I say watch and pray. Excitement magnifies weakness. When you get wedded, marriage becomes an obligation and divorce is not an option. Get love right before wedding and then you can enjoy marriage. Genuine salvation is core to loving right! Read I John 4:7-10!

To my wife of all times, I say it again I Love You Loads, thank God for keeping us thus far and thank you for letting Him!

I love you all!

Dedicated to my wife, children and home by the graceful love of God!

 

#Julius Afolabi