WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY GENERATION & SEX?

So many sour occurrences and experiences have made me to ask this question, i know you have heard and read stories more sour but we cant keep hearing, reading and lamenting without a healing. Sex apparently wasn’t meant to ruin man’s happiness but rather to glow it.  Two will never walk together except they agree!
1. A young fresh man in his green attitude dashed into a lecturer’s office in one of our Nigerian university only to find a him in active sexual intercourse with a student at broad day light.
 
2. A screening inspection was talking place in an office and a career woman had to dash home to pick her credentials only to find her husband in dangerous sexual gymnastic with another woman. He hung on unavailability and sexual famine but the woman knew she was busy but guilty.
 
3. A young enterprising man works offshore and upon an unannounced return discovered his wife in a sexual parade with another man. Sex most assuredly would be one of the vehicles to hell with flippant excuses but that was not the plan, we only bought a different formula.
 
Many corporate executives have unholy sexual demands an appraisal issue. many busy people are lost in the job and lost at home. The career, fame and wealth have become a sickness they can only personally endure. Many are dying in silence concerning sexual matters. Satan has counsel singles to view fornication and sophisticated prostitution as a way out of recession. Student trade sex for grades and graduate without a job, sexually get a job and sexually sustain the job. is that life? That is Hell with sex, a sleep with satanic sex offers you a free accommodation in hell should pass on without a change.
 
Many politician in quest for power has been counseled to have satanic sex with their mothers or daughters. what manner of evil, of course it is obvious that that is no longer natural but inhuman. Sex has its spirit, an erection could take a man off his natural senses and a thirsty ovulation could send a careless woman out of a careless tough. sexual urge can be dangerous and demands the right education.
 
There seem to be more infidelity in the Church than in the world? Adultery is fast becoming a norm. Divorce has become a digestive diet in the Church. What is wrong with my generation? The unholy culture is fast becoming the nature of the Church. There seem to be a flood of immorality sweeping away the Spiritual texture of the Church. Marriages are like planes, we only hear of the ones that crash, no wonder sexual perversion has hybernated in the church. Secrets between couples and ignorant application & communication of Love have also damaged the sexual happiness of many homes. The deception of the age and manipulation of sex has crept into the Church. you will wonder what has happen to the BIBLE. 6 to 1 diet of the bible is a terrible formula for a triumphant life, marriage and sex.
 
The first story was recent and i heard to recall the next two with many more that time and space would not permit me to share , and i thought deeply, what exactly is wrong with my generation and sex. The gift has become sinful goad. Indeed ignorance and indiscipline are powerful combinations that perfect bondage and disgrace. shame is indeed the promotion of fools, a fool is one who rejects the knowledge of God.
 
My generation of young people don’t understand that fornication is like a gadget that when you activate play, it takes God to pulse. Amazingly my generation has failed to understand that Adultery works smoothly with unavailability, anonymity and affordability. both sexual perversion works with disobedience to God. when your Spirit is dormant, your flesh will be active. temptation ride on dominant flesh and passive spiritual control.
 
Sex is a divine gift purposely in marriage but Satan perverted it and mass produced the satanic perspective of sex. Sexual urge is an offshoot of chemicals, it begins with words that drive activation of hormones that increase sexual drive. Words power power touch and touch increase these chemical reactions in the body and sexual drive, stimulation and urge is increased to a point of gratification that ends in sex. sexual urge is a body chemistry reaction that also be powered by a seductive force.
 
It is written the power of life and death lies in the tongue, many have silenced their marital peace and harmony with awful communication. when a wife tells or asks her husband “Is sex food” and a husband tells the wife “are you a dog”. Then they have murdered sex in that marriage.i thought couples are meant to be open, honest and sincere since a third party is a marital death warrant. Only maturity helps a man or woman to hear and understand, more so know how to respond. Age is not wisdom, wisdom is superior to age and puberty. Marriage and sex is a matter of wisdom. it takes a prudent wife and a wise man to live sexually happy. Sexual organs don’t talk but are controlled by communications verbal and non verbal! Sex responds to mentality faster than the act itself. Ecstasy or climax is a powerful communication with heavy consequence, communication is a huge decision process. sex is not love but love leads to sex. Erection is not a defect and amorous responses are not mistakes, they communicate judgements.
 
Never ask your spouse, is sex food or are you never tired? It is scarcely possible to leave sex for food but it is very Possible to leave for for sex. when sex is off your menu list, you are inviting tension in your matrimonial home! Denying you spouse sex is killing the marriage.
 
Sex is not an option in marriage, it is an obligation. If you give a woman everything, all the money and comfort and fail to satisfy her sexually or unavailable for sexual unity in marriage, you have done nothing. sex makes a woman feel like a woman. sex makes a man feel the ego of a man. Sex is God ordained pleasure within the confines of marriage. when a car is not serviced, it will loose viscosity.
 
Don’t kill your marriage with sexual denial. They don’t preach this on the altar. Adam and Eve were naked and not ashamed. Men and Women have varying sexual drive, one party passive and the other passive, In marriage we must close the gap else we brake the edge and the serpent will bite. Couple should talk to each other and be willing to render the benevolence Paul admonished in 1 Cor 7:1-5!
 
Some spouses has been deceived by size of organ for sexual satisfaction, it is not what you have but how you use what you have. The man with the biggest male organ in the world is under torments, lonely, abandoned and rejected. Read it up (Roberto Esquivel Cabrera, 54, from Saltillo, Mexico, has a penis measuring a colossal 18.9 inches.) is that what you want? He laments of such a yoke in his life. yet some women and men are seeking satanic means to increase their organ, are you wiser than God? get out if ignorance and read anointed books that teach Christian ways of managing sexual incompatibility.
 
Safe your spouse the temptation out there. Overgrow temptation by eating well at home, eating out is greed punishable with unwanted and ill-bargained calamities. Whatever has no boundaries, is a bondage.  Don’t employ a partner you may never be able to sack your sour experience with. This and more, my generation must know. I believe that this piece would safe a couple, marriage, fornicator, adulterer and a home.
 
My generation must be healed of this sexual mentality defect.
 
Please share and thanks for taking time to read.
 
Afolabi Julius Olatunde

TRAIN UP A CHILD

Train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

It is value that makes us understand that our experiences in life are insulators of safety for the exploits of others. That our scars are to secure the injuries of others and our speed is to challenge the laxity of the many. As we grow, let us grow in value and that only shows we are able to see better and rightly.

A father is different from a parent. Anybody can be a parent but being a father is God’s prerogative. Everyone has a supernatural and natural father. We pray our father who hath in heaven and then we were born into a family where we are identified with our biological father whom we did not choose. The differential is responsibility.

God fulfilled the responsibility of a father by providing a training manual in the form a bible and in it he documented how we ought to train up our own children because they are his heritage. We are not train them our own way but God’s own way. Train up a child in the way he should and when he grows up he will not depart from it.

Mephiboseth was incapacitated by a nurse who dropped him off to fall to the ground and lost his feet. Fathers are nurses and many fathers today are like Mephiboseth nurse. However, a father who was not his parent spoke for him and he was restored to his place, the place of royalty. He sat with kings at feast. This is what a father does, trains up a child in a manner that bring them to dignity and royalty. May God grant every parent the wisdom and grace of fatherhood to nurture kings from their loins. Sperm is not a product of the excitement of ecstasy but the birth of a destiny. Mind where you spill yours, you will give account of it. Ask Onan.

Children are diverse, ideas, businesses, service, talent and inventions are children, they call them brain child or mental fertility. We must do or conduct our mental children in a manner that nourishes humanity and give glory to God. That is the way they should go and when we are gone the systems we created will still be solving the issues of humanity.

Many parents have been upgraded to fathers by taken responsibility and many have also fallen from fathers to parent by the ladder of irresponsibility. Save your child today with the rod if need be. (Proverbs 23:13) Don’t pamper a child to scatter his or her destiny. Instruction is not with money. Mordecai was a security man but Esther was not wayward! Your low income is not an excuse  to shirk the discipline of your child. Since the days America removed the bible and child spanking from the curriculum of child training, their unemployment statistics began to grow because the American children drifted into laziness, loathsomeness and latitude of attitude.

Our generation is growing out of line, parents must become fathers and fathers must instill the moral codes required to match the demands of the future. today, knowledge is on the increase but change is not happening because application is undervalued. Our children will beckon on the role we played in the degeneration of the world we have shaped.

Train up your child or children and God bless you.

Dedicated to my lovely daughter who turns 7! Daughter you are blessed beyond measure through the love of God!

Julius Afolabi

MARRIAGE AND WEDDING TIPS IN RECESSION

Prudence is superior to recession. Love is wise.  Recession should suspend your wedding!

In all sincerity, Recession shouldn’t stop your wedding if you have matured your preparation for marriage. Stop postponing your marriage if you are ripe, life is a race against time. The major factor is marrying right and Making the right decision. It is not about what people will say, it is what your experience and life will be after the wedding that is crucial. it is important not to enter marriage because of wedding or pressure, if you are frustrated before wedding, you will be humiliated in marriage. Don’t know it all, pride ushers disgraceful fall. Seek the face of God and seek counsel from spiritually matured people prayerfully.

Here are a few tips to tip off your slumber and economic fear. Wedding is only a bridge not a location!

Many people want to impress people and depress themselves. It is the marriage that matters o.
– It is not how flamboyant your wedding is, it is how blissful your marriage will be. Your wedding budget has no correlation with your marital joy. Understanding is the differential. You don’t need a deficit budget to fix your wedding, your marriage will have an unfavorable balance and then you swim into validating your decision. Debt driven wedding makes marriage a liability.
– Wedding card is a disposable, who said you can’t print letters? its an invite not a wall plaque.
– If you slaughter countless cows men will still complain. People are invited to witness not to consume. Refreshment is not 3 square meal.
– Rather than owe to fix wedding, sow a seed to seal your marriage.
– Some churches don’t take offerings in wedding ceremonies, why should officiating ministers demand honorarium? Let God honor you. Jesus our example said I receive no honor from men. John 5:41!
– Many Aso ebi don’t last beyond the wedding neither are they true symbols of family love and unity. Marital and family unity is superior to aso ebi unity. Even wicked uncles and auntys wear aso ebi.
– Engagement and wedding could be done the same day. Time is life. Merge the expenses. It will reduce accommodation expense and inconvenience challenges. Serious people are busy.
– You don’t have to buy two rings, get a wedding band. The commitment is between the couples not the world. The people who will say you don’t have an engagement ring will see your wedding band. Two rings self no be weight?
– Thank God wedding gowns can be rented but where you can afford, buy one. If you cant, rent one, after all you are not going to announce that you did. The major matter is ensure you pray fervently over the rented gown so that you don’t import the marital realities of those who have used that you may never know their spiritual and personal status. Life is deep! Some people say wedding gown are ceremonial burial garment. its all a tradition of old tale! Would the ceremonial burial gown change the eternal home of the person? It is what you did with your life and choice that matter at death. Duet 30:19. Let’s get out of tradition and face the truth.
– Be happy with those that didn’t attend your wedding but are praying for your marriage than those who attended but wish you hell in the marriage or showed up for analysis and mockery.
– Traditional rites should not be a rope of suicide, if all God who gives and sustain life is only asking for our choice to obey Him, (Ecc 12:13) why should any man compel people for excessive material demands with financial burden. Pray to God concerning what you can give to Caesar, humbly seek discounts. Ask, negotiate. Be spiritual not traditional too, because the gift of a man is a point of contact. Pray about everything!!! God will help you and grant you favor once your bed and courtship process is not defiled.

Don’t let recession be an excuse! If you can afford a colorful wedding why not but if you can’t don’t die in depression. It is marital experience that is the color of your wedding.

Purposeful Life is not for comparison, everyone has his or her lane. Don’t compare and contrast till you frustrate yourself. Life is an individual race. Every man shall be accountable for himself.

With these few wits of mine, i believe i have relieved you of the mask of economic fear!

Please share, freely contribute and comment objectively.

Julius Afolabi