Life is a privilege, gift and a marriage of learning and experiences. Marriage is a core part of life that requires a resolute synthesis, even though not everybody would experience it, if you are fortunate to be married cherish it, protect it and keep working on it. if you are not but desire it keep working on your yourself in line with God’s plan for and it will soon become your testimony.

Exactly eight (8) years ago, I got covenantly married to my only wife Linda Afolabi and I can tell you it’s been eight successful years of marital harmony with lots of learning.

I want to be married is “cheap talk” but staying married is work and sustaining marriage is a responsibility.

Marriages and marital harmony is under constant satanic attack of ignorance and rage. In the world of today, Marriage has a full time enemy so you can’t afford to be a part time Christian or casual about your individual development, knowledge upgrade and love for God. Couples must be full time aware and conscious.

Successful marriage requires understanding, true maturity, and the love of God. Day by day couples maturity is being tested and couples endurance is being challenged. If you are a part time Christian, Satan will rush in with subtlety to destabilize your emotions, wreck your unity and paralyze your destiny. You can’t afford to rest when you have a restless enemy seeking to devour and destroy your marital bliss. (1 Peter 5:8) marriage is a resolve not just an ordinary decision, it is a choice that just be extraordinarily protected.

Two basic demands of successful marriage are repentance and forgiveness. Where imperfect individual live together offenses will evolve but understanding will sponsor acknowledgement of fault and maturity will generate remorseful repentance when love would usher forgiveness for peace to nestle. Besides a natural man can rarely forgive except the love of God abide in him or her. These are basic necessities that proof love from the man and submission from the woman. Col 3:8-9.

There are two kinds of spouses I have discovered, the Scaffold Spouse and the Pillar Spouse. Marriage is a building and feelings are like scaffold but wisdom is the pillar.

A scaffold Spouse is the easily irritated spouse that life issues will give reasons to quit the marriage when the best is just at the corner. He or she forgets that there are nights before day and there are battles before bliss. If you can t make your marriage work, you are just a scaffold that leaves the building at the finishing stage or when she is about to be completed or When the marriages is just crushing to its peak.

The Pillar Spouse is the abiding associate with faithfulness all through thick and thin. He or she stands to fight the good fight of faith both in the good and bad times. Check the pillar of your house, it is always there. The pillar of a house holds still until the glory of the house comes forth and remains faithful. It remains one with the house all through its life. Are you a pillar in your marriage or the coward scaffold?

Linda, you have been a pillar, I love you and I am grateful that you are there.  My flair was not a fair lady for a bride but the peculiarities that would complete me and help me fulfill my purpose was captured in the fair you and that make us. Love you loads! This is my point..

Mr. or Mrs. Right is not a man but the peculiarities, that this brother left or died, or that lady jilted you or died does not end your world. God has and can build specialties that fits you in another man or lady hence brother/sister pray that you meet the peculiarities that match your purpose in life!

Marriage is Eden; you can’t get a better husband or wife outside your marriage. All you will get are leaves that are temporal and fudge like Adam got when he left Eden or Abraham bought when he bargained for Ishmael. They never last. Quit the extramarital folly! Only God’s provision which is your wife or husband can last your lifetime.

My marriage is blessed with wonderful children, so I pray for every home that is silent and yet to have children running round the house, God will visit you this year In Jesus name. for the homes that are almost hopeless, going lukewarm and overwhelmed with questions, the God that has been making me to laugh will put a new song in your mouth in Jesus name.

For every marriage in crisis, the peace of God will overshadow your storm. May our life and marriages be filled with Love, Peace and Joy that makes us fit for eternity with Christ at the marriage of the Lamb of God in Jesus name.

Dedicated to Linda, Ayomide, David and Grace; And all married couples on the occasion of our 8th Wedding Anniversary.

Julius Afolabi



Being subjectively rigid is a lot of work that leads to business and corporate losses.

God is STRATEGIC, He will go for the man or woman abandoned or forgotten to remember a generation, community, nation or people. God works with identifying potentials that no one can see to achieve all that many celebrate in ages. I Cor 2:18-20!

Jesus went to the tomb to heal one mad man who had great evangelistic potential to reach the entire city. He also decided to have a brief chat with a renowned prostitute who had great evangelistic potentials to sell the raw gospel to the entire city. Mark 5:1-20!

Banking was interesting for me, you could be terrible in operations but should they discover that you have some marketing skills you are immediately re-fused. As soon as my BM in 2002 discovered I could speak the three major languages he relocated me from operations to marketing. I didn’t do much but was the best contract staff in marketing because I understood the dynamics between operations and marketing staff.

Some years ago, the bank had a big challenge in one of its IT locations; we had a contract staff in the IT department that resolved that issue that the whole IT team including the GM IT couldn’t resolve. This contract staff didn’t study electrical electronic or computer electronics. He didn’t even have a degree so he was often relegated and dispersed but inside him was the solution that could have cost the bank several millions. This young man went to the scene and resolved it in days what for months experts couldn’t even understand. The contract staff was just talented in anything computer and employed without a degree.

MD/CEO can you identify one manager who can take another market for you? Manager/ Supervisor can you identify a super-marketer that can launch change your bottom line with his skills? That employee that seems a low performer, timid can you surge up the lion inside him out to bulldoze the market your entire team couldn’t handle.

Be FLEXIBLY STRATEGIC. Manager all that you are wasting the business funds for is in that staff you hate so much, pastor all that the church is suffering can be resolved from that seemingly poor brilliant brother but you ego and office would not allow you consider it. Bishop you know your problem is one private sin that nobody knows about but the euphoria of your position cannot make you apologize to the man you offended. Capon you know that you are suffering in that cult but you feel too big to respond to altar call. There is one thing to get all other things done. Stop being headstrong about giving God that chance to settle all your matter. See the flexibly strategy..

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and EVERY OTHER THING SHALL BE ADDED UNTO YOU. What are you running about for? What has been your entire race in life about? Wouldn’t you rather consider Mathew 6:33!



Julius Afolabi


You are the light of the world, city set upon the hill that cannot be hid. Matthew 5:14. Don’t let your sour experience hide you! God is aware and has the way out.

Getting admission into all levels of my educational pursuit was a sour experience but today the wisdom of God has made me a solution carrier in counsel and business strategy. Is there anything difficult before God especially when you submit to Him? Certainly NO! Your case is not closed; your sour experiences can become your lemonade of impact, influence and income!

Every sour experience of life is a proof of the greatness within you. Many of our sour experiences are seeds of impact, influence and wealth. Many people would never have impacted their world if they had no sour experiences.

The world wouldn’t have celebrated a man like Abraham Lincoln if he hadn’t the sour experiences of serial failure. It was a dangerous sickness that ushered the greatness of Kenneth Hagin’s life. It is the terribleness of poverty that made many people to think and grow rich. what lemonade of value are you going to make of your sour experiences in life to be a blessing to humanity?

The bible is a bank of solution options better than any level of education or human therapy. The bible is the word of God that is true!

What are you passing through? Trust God and believe in Him to see you through so that you can tell the tales of your experiences to preserve many and impact your world.

That poor man cried unto the Lord, the Lord heard him and delivered him from all his troubles. Psalms 34:6! Unto Him that answereth prayers shall all flesh come! Prayers is telling your sour experiences to God because vain is the help of man!

What are your sour experiences today, in your life, marriage, business, career or health? Go tell them to God today! Go to church today, listen to the word of God genuinely, rededicate your life back to God where needful and if you haven’t given your life to Christ before , do so today and let God turn your trials and tribulations to testimonies of triumph and you tell your story you make impact and income.

You are born great to live great, there is greatness in you irrespective of your sour experiences, don’t die little.

Have a blast of revival today in Jesus name!

Julius Afolabi ..