Sexual denial is an embarrassment in marriage. Sexual fulfillment is an necessary embellishment in Marriage.
Sexual fulfillment in marriage is a vital link to joyful accomplishment. Take it or you leave it, if sexual pleasure is missing in a marriage, each party in that marriage will under-perform in everything! Sex in marriage is not a compensation, IT IS AN OBLIGATION! sex is not to be used as an award for good behavior neither should it be considered as a weapon of punishment. Paul an apostle of God by inspiration said ” Render Benevolence”. if that want important, bible will not record it! However, sexual denial is not a permission to sin! Rather we must take responsibility of correction so that there is no burning!
Today, so many marriages and families live in silent frustration. The world is ravaged by the force of sexual immorality which has increased the rate of divorce, infidelity, family irresponsibility and marital under-fulfillment. sex is not to be an addiction but it is a responsibility. Anger, cold war, silence are cheap for a man or woman experiencing sexual denial. How can a married man constantly have an erection with no pleasure or how can a married cope with clitoral arousal unsatisfied? There are mistakes that sometimes the rest of your time may not be able to repair, sexual denial in marriage is one. Satan only needs one mistake to ruin a destiny. Don’t be the one to create it! Self control is not only natural but spiritual, how long will you want your wife or husband to employ self control for your sexual denial?
Today, many spouses have manufactured several factual reasons to sexual denial in marriage. Marriage is fast becoming another human association cosmetics. There are many husbands sobbing in silence and many wives sobbing in silence. The race to meet family needs, the search for pleasure, birth control, the chase for fame or career among many has made a leak in many marriages. GO AND GET EDUCATED! Adam and Eve were naked and not ashamed, what are you hiding? discuss it, talk about it. After all she is your wife, he is your husband! Be unrepentantly generous with your body to your husband or wife! Please play now, there is time for everything. enjoy the wife of your youth, enjoy the wife of your old age. Abraham and Sarah still made sweet love to have Isaac. Sarah at 90 said will i still have pleasure again? Her imaginations traveled, give your husband or wife a recipe that makes him or her smile alone. some women or men say they are not in the mood. is it every day that a man is in the mood to go to work but he must go to work? why? it is an obligation! No matter how wonderful a car is, without PMS, it wont move, man you need to supply the affection, care that will facilitate the kind of sexual fulfillment you need. However, mood is important it is not a tool to allow sexual denial or under-fulfillment. Couples should only read business, career, kitchen books, read good christian literature that will enable you live a happy married life! If marriage has a rot, destiny will be polluted!
Sexual denial for any reason has terrible implications on marital health, it is a cheap source of frustration for either couples affected, it is a common route to temptations that will ruin all justification that a man or woman may pose as a reason for sexual denial or sexual under-fulfillment in marriage. it will interest you to know that many ministry,business, organization have been drowned by sexual denial or sexual under-fulfillment at home. Several terrible habits,decisions, actions have erupted from sexual denial. Don’t forget your wife or husband is still very attractive to many! There are people even in church who will do anything to have that your wife or husband you are dribbling!
I read the story of a woman who for forty years she was addicted to pornography even though a Christian. When her husband is asleep she will turn on her computer for hours. Until she sat down to discuss it with her husband and both began to work on that together, she wasn’t delivered. Satan takes advantage of any vital missing link to torment, devastate and trouble the victim. Be guarded!
Someone may ask, how often is sex supposed to happen in marriage? Sex comes with thirst? Satisfy it when it comes. Frequency is according to the agreement of couples. No prescription is envisaged since marriages are unique and drives vary. In all thy getting, get understanding. One of my boss someday said to me on a weekend, Julius I have to go home this week, it is compulsory. I wondered why the strong desire to go home for weekend because he had just returned but he only said in one sentence “I am due”. Now imagine that he makes his journey and he is denied!
” Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. “(1Corinthians 7:2-5) (NKJV)
This is probably a most ignored subject on many pulpits but it is part of the demands of scriptures. The man of God James said “when we fail in one we fail in all” and Ezekiel said ” if you watch anyone you could correct become a victim you will be liable for ignoring to make correctable contribution”. sexual denial in marriage is terrible!
Get back home today and make it up to your husband or wife. Good sex in marriage does a lot of repairs. Don’t take sex off your marital menus. All affairs outside marriage are gateways to buying struggles, troubles and heavy concerns that will waste life! Your promotion, success, fulfillment in life also finds trace from your sexual fulfillment.
this is rather an unusual but crucial sermon i guess!
May God keep all our marriages in JESUS name.
Excerpts from my book “TRANSPARENCY IN MARRIAGE” Get more details therein.
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Afolabi Julius Olatunde